My Dad & My Sister

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They went TOO FAR this time, they decided to put my cat in an animal hospital, so she can be taken care of, I know that the best, but they didn’t asked me where I want to take her, my dad did ask, but I couldn’t email him back right away, 1. I was busy with physical therapy 2. He didn’t wait for me 3. I don’t check my emails toooo much. Right now, my cat is in a cage, someone told me the cage is big, but she alone, she is scared, she don’t know what happened & she don’t know why I left. She was a recuse kitten, she had separation anxiety in the past & she had nightmares. I been crying alot. There is another place that is much better, it is where I take her, that place is more animal friendly & cheaper, I trust them too. I’m sooo angry & upset at them, I cannot talk to my dad anytime soon, I wrote an email to him explaining how I feel, but I didn’t send it yet. When I had my accident, when the paramedics came, my apartment was very messy with dirty floors. A social worker hear about it & told my sister she should go to court to become my guardian. I rather die than have my sister be guardian of me & tell me what to do, she don’t know anything about my Asperger & what I can do, she don’t know that I can get very overwhelmed & have bad panic attacks, she won’t care. She don’t want to help me anymore, our relationship gone sooo worse, I don’t think it is a relationship, cuz we only talk to each other about few times a month or less & we don’t see each other. I really don’t know why she is claiming stuff about me that is not true. To her, I’m wrong & she is right, everything is almost my fault, she always accuse me of stuff, what happened to her!? She was never like this before my mom & my aunt died. I wish she can stop blaming me for alot of stuff. My sister is deciding what I can do & what I cannot do, it’s not up to her to decide, what am I a puppet!? She is not in my body to really know the truth about me. She wasn’t in my life ALOT, she wasn’t there for me as a big sister, she don’t really know me like what she claims that she really really know me & know what best for me like she was my mother. She may know me when I was a child, but she don’t know me as an adult, she never spend time with me, we were never ever close. I’m sooo sick & tired of this. How can she really really know me & know what best for me if she never spend time with me? She never asked me about my Psoriasis.

Without much background it is a little difficult to understand what is going on. So first question first. What is the name of your cat? What type of cat is it? What color is the cat?

So it seems like you were in some type of accident, paramedics came. Did you go to the hospital? If so are you still in the hospital? And now you are in physical therapy.

And right after the accident, paramedics came and noted the place where you are living was a mess and that report made its way to your social worker who suggested your sister become your legal guardian. Did the messy state of the place where you live contribute to your accident?

Generally when someone is away from home for awhile, someone needs to feed and water their animals in their absence. So if you were in the hospital for an extended period of time, the animals need to be cared for. So someone if they are close might come by and feed the cat daily, or maybe even bring the cat to their home for awhile until you returned home, or maybe the cat might be placed in a kennel for awhile. Something you said bothers me. You said "they decided to put my cat in an animal hospital, so she can be taken care of." The words 'being taken care of" has multiple meanings.

If you are not at home, when will you return to where you live?

So apparently your social worker feels that you are having difficulty living by yourself. She suggested a legal guardian. I am assuming you are an adult. (Otherwise your dad would automatically be your legal guardian.) So if your sister is an unacceptable guardian, could your father be appointed your legal guardian? You seem to be on better speaking terms with him. If that is the case you might email him and tell him your wishes. Or perhaps there is another family member who is an adult that might volunteer for this.

Every hospital has social workers, so ask if a social worker could visit you. Tell the social worker that you would be uncomfortable with your sister being your legal guardian. Ask if an independent person not related to you, such as someone in a social service agency, could be named instead.

You need home visits from an aide who can not only talk to you about how you are doing, but help organize your apartment and do a little housekeeping for you. If you are on public assistance, this should be available, based on family and social worker observations of your difficulty. Don't be shy about accepting this help - it can be critical in living independently, if you have trouble managing daily needs.

I'm sorry about your distress about the cat's placement. Please be aware that with you being hospitalized, there have been a lot of changes your family have had to make to their routine lives. I suspect your father just chose an animal hospital that was close and convenient for him to take the cat to. You could call that animal hospital and ask if someone is petting and grooming your cat regularly, and ask them to do that if they are not already.

Get well soon! Sending you positive vibes.