Having to avoid the outside

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I get this thing when I'm run down where I feel like people are going to crash into me or that their hand movements are too close to my face and eyes. People seem inconsiderate, their either blocking the way or walking straight at me. The conversations that I hear are depressing.

It's the weekend and I hoped to do something and interact with people. May just have to tidy up, eat and sleep. What do you do when to settle your mind and nerves?

Go somewhere where there’s less people to jostle you. If you can, go to some scenic area. Maybe a park?

Sounds like you live in quite an urban area. If you’re from the UK, avoid the shops; if from the US, avoid the stores. If you must buy something, just buy it and don’t tarry.

Take in a flick, perhaps. A movie, a film. A play, perchance?

Or stay at home and do fun research.

I'm feeling a bit like that today. I don't want to see people. But I think I'll go crazy if I stay in the house though.

So ibgoogmes places to go for walks in the city and I've found a park I didn't know about and it's only a 10 min drive from my apartment.

I'm gonna force myself to shower and get dressed and go out.

Thanks kraftiekortie, that's a good idea. I just slept for two hours, maybe I could manage a movie later on.

I hope the park is peaceful hurtloam.

I like to read Wikipedia. My favorite subjects to read about are plants, animals, bugs, songs, & films. It calms me & makes my brain feel better. I also like to watch movie outtakes on YouTube for a laugh.

The park was nice. I've decided to stop in a cafe and have a coffee. I don't want to go home just yet... mostly because I have a pile if dishes waiting for me.

I like watching Whose line us it anyway clips on YouTube. Always makes me laugh.

Of course my issues can be a bit different from yours but what I do is to lock the world out from my head and do the things that feels engaging and fulfilling to me. It will be different things for different people of course, but I find that having inspirational projects to work on over time so I can do a little each day, or when I feel like it, very helpful. I have been unfortunate to have started projects that became too much for me and caused me stress themselves. I had to stop and start over again. Now I have found great help in my forest project with this camp area I make just for fun. Being outdoors in a place where I don`t have to worry about people, where I can experience nature and let my own imagination and ideas have room and quietness to operate. It sets me free somehow. Gives me the space and freedom and the relaxed state of mind I can`t have when I am around people. Although I often pretend to have company and talk out loud when I am out there.

Then I still feel a need to be inspired by other people and then I turn to books, audio books, movies, internet for interesting sites, Ted-talks, art (I really appreciate the Display your artwork-thread here on WP!) etc. I also enjoy Wikipedia and I like to read about historical persons like writers, scientists, philosophers, inventors etc as well as ancient cultures and rulers. And I have this fascination and appreciation for timelines and animated illustrations.

I don`t have to go out and meet people very often in my everyday life but still I feel like it is to much sometimes. Exercising seems to make me feel a bit stronger mentally as well. I have health issues so I will never be super fit, but I can do fairly well with the capacity I have.

If I feel very very low I sometimes need to go to bed and almost pretend it is evening so I can do the stuff I do when I go to bed. Like making a hot water bottle, put on my jazz channel on the radio and read or put on an audio book. Ad some lavender oil because the smell has become a familiar smell of home to me. If I fall asleep I take it as a sign that I needed it.

I also find peace by lighting candles in the room I am in. Candle light has a calming effect on me as well as interacting with my animals.

Humor must also be mentioned. If something makes me laugh I feel better. So I have some favorite comedians and comedy shows I can turn to if I feel in need of a good laugh.

Something good to eat also comforts me and I try to stick to not so unhealthy food as I have struggled with eating disorders in my past and know that I can`t challenge myself too much. It isn`t smart of me to use food for comfort too much. But I control it well today. My favorite meal when I am feeling distressed and low are casseroles.

At the moment I am in this mode that I wish I didn`t have to see anyone. It is unrealistic and it will pass and I`ll feel better eventually, I know. It is just the way it is. When I was up in the forest earlier to day, fixing on my camp, and were digging mud out of the stream that will run so beautifully through a part of the camp area, I didn`t think about much else than the mud and the water and if the stream would run faster and cleaner now, and it was such a relief. To focus on something as concrete, uncomplicated and real as that.
I do feel like I am fighting bad emotions/worries, thoughts and memories every day as my experiences seems to get stuck in my head and body, but the things I have mentioned are helping me. Not that I become completely freed from my problems but it helps me keep myself up and going and gives my days some quality too. These things might be completely without any calming, comforting effect to someone else since people are different with different issues. It is interesting though to hear how other people find peace of mind and motivation.

I managed to wash up, cook, nap and post something embarrassing. Think I'll just shut up for a while and sleep.

Will you come and do my dishes for me. I only managed the mugs and the cutlery.

Sure. I've just got to recover from doing mine first!

I drag myself out the door for coffee whenever I can. As far as having fun while avoiding people goes, late night biking is nice.

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Greetings cberg. It's morning here and after coffee I'm going for a ride through the Devon lanes.
There are increasing numbers of road cyclists slogging away with long queues of traffic behind them but the lanes are always quiet.
I think it has something to do with the television.