My husband takes up too much of my time...

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I was hoping there would be more "balance" after we moved, that I could go out with friends places, etc... But so far my husband has been in the hospital a lot already, doctors appointments, and also he loves going places but I end up driving him everywhere he wants to go. I have only seen my old best friend once briefly so far. I think I need to reach out more by setting apart specific time to meet with people but being social skills challenged I find that hard.

Other stuff is okay though, we got almost everything in our new place settled and this is a very quiet apartment thankfully.

I'm so glad you like your new apartment!

My mood has shifted to resentment toward my husband and I've gotten very irritable toward him. I'm wondering if the borderline dx is true. I see the primary care doc tomorrow and the next day because I was on the cancellation list I'm seeing the psych doctor. I hope they can straighten my mood out, I might need a med adjustment. Also tomorrow I'm going shopping for discount food with my aunt without my husband and it might be what I need right now.

You probably need time alone.....

Spouse-caregivers have great stresses and it usually takes a toll on their health, mental and physical. I am a spouse caregiver of a husband with dementia. I go to a support group for caregivers, which is very helpful. You need to get some "respite care," someone to stay with your husband while you get some time to yourself. I bet you can get health insurance to pay for this if your husband's primary care doctor orders it. Look into it.

The above is good advice.

I think your husband is making you irritable because he's wearing you out.