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that1weirdgrrrl
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03 Dec 2018, 11:18 pm

i want to meet someone and fall in love
at the same time i feel like this is a stupid desire
i've definitely gotten hurt more than a few times
i don't know why i keep doing it


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03 Dec 2018, 11:34 pm

me neither.


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04 Dec 2018, 12:01 am

Because we’re human, and we’re animals.



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04 Dec 2018, 2:24 am

i am a woman in love, and i'd do many things, to get him back in my world, and keep him within. ya getting a soulmate is well basic thing. need. desire. whatever. and well i know some pairs that are integer and happy. i know mine had been. i know this part of my life is over. loving me is too hard xD


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04 Dec 2018, 4:52 am

Love will drive some of us mad. So be it. Madness is better than feeling nothing at all.



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04 Dec 2018, 5:03 am

thank you, i'd rather be numb


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04 Dec 2018, 5:09 am

There's different types of love. I think as long as I have friends and family that's good enough for me. Even pets can provide love.



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04 Dec 2018, 5:12 am

yes, and well its the difference between affection and desire. put togather they form the disaster too many times.


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04 Dec 2018, 5:21 am

okay, im sorry for being a downer. i am having a bad day, and also getting triggered. this feeling called love is great. it just hurts like b***h when not shared any more or at all. and not feeling anything becomes quite enticing.


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04 Dec 2018, 5:37 am

I'm sorry I triggered you.

I feel not having love is making me insane. I go to an art class every week and seeing how happy and easy the others find it to interact with each other and how left out and rejected I feel, lowers my self esteem.

I do not feel accepted by society at all, in supermarkets, on the streets, on buses, on trains, in college, anywhere. I feel everywhere people are mocking me, hating me for looking different, for having different expressions, for having niche interests. So love seems my only escape, that's why I think I feel such a need for it.



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04 Dec 2018, 6:01 am

it wasnt u, fifasy. and ya what u write, keyword FEEL. u feel, its not happening, its para-fucking-noya making u believe. i look weird. also my cloths are not that good, and my winter jacket is spoilt with some oil i had accidently dipped in (black, uncleansible stain on red jacket), and its very noticable. so ya i dont look very presentable. still in the street nobody much cares. ya s**t happens to everybody, they think, i guess. i get recognized in both local supermarkets, and not in a shoo way. s**t happens in groups of people, where communication (and miscommunication) happens. and its allways the question if they are giving me space, or despise me. hard to tell ya. and i keep getting paranoid and then i start getting edgy on them and thats what breaks everything. group i assemble myself, well somebody will flip this or that time, somebody will fall off the radar, all that s**t. most people are unreliable. and affection u give to them is about to bite u in the ass sooner or later. i've been betrayed a few too many times, and i find it hard to get to trust somebody. and i am very anxious when it happens. when i feel that emotion called trust. when i want to just give into it. i try to drive it away, because aspiration will turn into fear and desperation, nothing ever good enough to last. i try to avoid feelings, ya. i am damaged. i dont even think of taking a new male mate. i dont believe i can click with somebody. if it starts happening accidently, i am likely to run away, the only answer. i make it very clear that all my interactions are not based to gender, for that reason. i can handle friendship, to a limit, but i cant handle love. and all the talk about love, about wanting love, about never having had love, ya it triggers me. i dont know why the f*****g heell would i barge into this topic and mess with it, i should have so left it alone. please forgive me, people.


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04 Dec 2018, 7:42 am

serpentari wrote:
i dont know why the f*****g heell would i barge into this topic and mess with it, i should have so left it alone. please forgive me, people.


You've made a perfectly valid contribution to the subject matter, it's all relevant.



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04 Dec 2018, 8:19 am

that1weirdgrrrl wrote:
i want to meet someone and fall in love
at the same time i feel like this is a stupid desire
i've definitely gotten hurt more than a few times
i don't know why i keep doing it

It's not a "stupid desire"; it's actually what you were made for. That's why you "keep doing it".
I'm so sorry that you've been hurt. Maybe that's what helps us to cherish the people who don't hurt us; to be gentle with them and take care not to hurt them, because we know from experience just how much it hurts.
May peace be with you.



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04 Dec 2018, 8:37 am

love is a biological need


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04 Dec 2018, 9:50 am

I think where I live there is so much poverty that there isn't that much love in the air. There is a lot of desperation.

The UK right now is horrible. We have a government punishing poor people just for being born poor. They have bullied disabled people to suicide and forced some onto the streets through lack of support. Everyone except the rich has been pummelled.

And so who can afford love in this climate? I live in one of the parts of the UK with a high amount of poor people. The town I actually live in is mixed with some quite wealthy people but there is a lot of poverty here too.



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04 Dec 2018, 10:12 am

fifasy wrote:
I think where I live there is so much poverty that there isn't that much love in the air. There is a lot of desperation.

The UK right now is horrible. We have a government punishing poor people just for being born poor. They have bullied disabled people to suicide and forced some onto the streets through lack of support. Everyone except the rich has been pummelled.

And so who can afford love in this climate? I live in one of the parts of the UK with a high amount of poor people. The town I actually live in is mixed with some quite wealthy people but there is a lot of poverty here too.


I think that the US is going through a similar problem. I see poverty getting worse everywhere I look and it feels like nobody gives a damn anymore.