My boyfriend said he hates my laugh

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He's not the only one who's said that either.

The thing is, I find lots of things funny cognitively, but physically only a very small laugh comes out, so I like to enhance my laugh by forcing it so that the people around me know how much I have found something funny, but because it's forced it comes out as a shouty laugh that seems to annoy people.
I understand other autistic people not liking the sound of loud laughing, but I didn't think NTs minded so much as they don't have the sensory issues as bad as us. I know people with really loud laughs, to the point where I feel my eardrum vibrating, but I never tell them, because it feels rude to tell them that their laugh is annoying.

Also I use laughter as a way of fighting negative emotions such as stress and anxiety. They say laughter is the best medicine, even if you have to force it sometimes.

My boyfriend said "I love you, but not your laugh." Maybe I'll just laugh a lot less and be a miserable person then.

Your laugh is part of the overall package and most people would rather be with someone who can be themselves around them, so I can't imagine that he'd prefer you to not laugh even if it's not his favourite sound in the world.

I'd say he can learn to love it.

Just laugh naturally.....don't "enhance" your laugh.

Being your natural self is important

Forcing something like a laugh will sound very "off" to an NT. It triggers a subconscious reaction that this person is not being authentic. It does that to me too and I'm autistic.