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Marknis
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07 May 2021, 8:05 pm

I was born prematurely and I sometimes wonder if it’s the root of everything I struggle with. It may have been the reason I developed having Aspergers, the fact I have dyscalculia, why I am clinically depressed, and why I can’t excel at anything I wish I was good at. I also just read an article people who are born premature are less likely to have relationships: https://www.healio.com/news/pediatrics/ ... rtnerships



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07 May 2021, 8:29 pm

I was born premature as well, 6 or 7 weeks. I'm bipolar, probably substance dependant, I've never excelled at anything I've ever wanted to and I've never been adequately competent at anything I need to be in order to survive. I've been more socially successful than you, but in hindsight I've often behaved in ways that I'm later ashamed of. I don't really have anyone who seems particularly invested in my well-being.

Should I really just go ahead and kill myself?


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07 May 2021, 9:37 pm

The root of your struggles is depression. It doesn't have any logic associated with it.

There's no reasoning with depression. So focussing on it is not a good idea.

Focus on the things that help you relax and make you feel better.