Finding hard to work with without my work colleague

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On 14th, I went to Angela's funeral and then went with some of my other colleagues for a celebratory drink which was nice. I did enjoy it and enjoyed talking to people and liked to be dressed up for the occasion and I remember before I left, Richard, Angela's husband told me to remember that she loved working with me and trying to teach me new skills, I mean she was teaching new things as a key holder before she passed away.

I remember coming home and feeling rather emotional. I don't know if it was a combination of being both sad and happy. I think was happy because I went and would have felt bad if I didn't go. But I sad because I went to a funeral and Angela's passing hit me again and because I was around other people mourning her to.

Back at work I seemed like I have at times being able to cope with Angela not being there anymore but in the days after the funeral, I would thoughts about her and it would kind of upset me.

I mean yesterday I had a combination of thoughts in my head when I was at work not just of my late colleague, but I had a ridiculous argument at home because I didn't have a tie to wear at the funeral and my mum's partner offered to get me one but he was upset with me because he didn't feel like I appreciated him for it when he's done a lot for me and mum. I remember taking myself off to the staff room and burst into tears and Cheryl my manager came and saw me and gave me a hug and told me they will always be there for me and worried I'll be feeling this way every time I come into work and I mean Angela wouldn't have wanted to see me like this and certainly wouldn't want me to lose my job there after 7 years.

Maybe it would help if you talked with your manager Cheryl for a few minutes when you need it to focus or prioritize what you should be doing. That is what managers are for. My guess is that having her help will make you a lot more productive as you can focus on work.

You are allowed to grieve. Eventually you will reach acceptance.

Pretty normal to be emotional after a death.

Honour her as your colleague by doing good work and learning from others how to do more/better work.

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