Forgiveness and Hypocrisy

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My question is this:


If you can forgive yourself for what you have done to others but you can't forgive others for what they have done to you does that make you a hypocrite?

I've put this question in the haven for a reason for

I know I'm a pretty bitter and twisted individual because of all the crap I've taken in my life so I know that and know I'm in the wrong on that. I don't apologise for it though. It's just my weakness as a fallible human being. I don't forgive all the people who have given me s**t though. Thay're a bunch of nasty f*****s and I don't apologise for living on state benefits as I am currently incapable of work for mental health reasons and my drinking.

I have the opposite issue. I can forgive other people for what they've done, but I don't really know how to forgive myself for things I've done.

Give yourself a break man

Whatever you've done can't be that bad

I don't think it's being hypocritical at all. To me forgiveness is not an obligation, it is a gift that not everyone earns or deserves. Forgiveness for me comes from understanding what was done, why it was done, and the intent behind it. It is easy for me to forgive an honest mistake; it is nearly impossible for me to forgive selfishly evil behavior and actions.

It took me a long time to learn how to forgive myself for a few things that I regretted afterwards. Forgiving myself was important for me as it allowed me to learn and grow from my mistakes. I apologized for my actions and definitely hoped to be forgiven, but never expected it or felt I deserved it.

Yes forgiveness is a choice but just because feel that forgiveness, does not mean that you go back and reconnect with the people or group who hurt you. Rather, it means that you acknowledge that the person did to you but you live at peace with what happened

There are toxic people who use "Forgiveness" to control their victims into feeling guilty for leaving them