No life, and a boyfriend who wants to keep it that way

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I'm not going into a lot of detail here, but I have lived with my bf for 2 years, I have no outside contacts, all of the people I talk to are online, I can't phone anyone as he thinks it's a date with "another dude" as he puts it. He has got 100% power simply because it's his house, anything he does not want me to do is stopped with the threat of throwing me out onto the street, where I would be living as nobody is prepaired to have me. so to a certain extent I have to back down to his overzelous attitude.
He repeatedly tells me he loves me and does not want to lose me, so why does he treat me like this?
I am seriously depressed, I cry 24/7 apart from when he is home, and yes, I have considered ending my life.

Don't tell me to leave him

Don't tell me to call any services, they are not interested in me

Don't tell me to see the doctor

I have my reasons.

Why don't you stand up for yourself? When you're an aspie it's hard to read the social signs, but if you're letting him push you around, you're only submitting yourself. Humans are social "animals", and the same rule applies to wolfs, lions and other pack animals as well. You shouldn't leave him if that's not what you want, but at least tell him about your problems.

I'm diagnosed as an aspie myself, though. So my advice probably isn't the best...

Well, for one I know how cold it is outside and he would throw me out if I did, this is how he makes sure I don't see "other men". I've tried to tell him, but he said he was not going to talk about it, and would throw me out, that was it.

What about your family?

They are classed with the nobody will help me bit.

Why won't they help you? Have you pushed them away or will they just not help?

This is very unhealthy... I know I'm stating the obvious but you have to do something about this. I'm sorry things are so tough for you.

Dump him. No matter what it takes. You can't let someone control you like that. You'll feel so much better in the long run.

Trust me, I would not last 2 minutes on the streets.

No, I have done my absolute best with my mother, but she has delusions that as soon as I am thrown out, all these "services" will come running to help.

Why won't she help you? That's what I would be thinking.

You have to get away from this man. Better you be poor and free than be solvent but enslaved. Get yourself out. I'm sure people will help you. Hell, if you were close enough I might come to your rescue.

Because her husband hates me and we fight, this would disrupt her easy life...also I don't think she sees me as a human, she sees me as Asperger Syndrome...

Any friends? I can't understand a parent that would let their own blood suffer.

No, making friends is something I gave up on many years ago.

How much are apartments where you live? You might be able to take the half of the rent you're paying for the current house and use it to pay for a small apartment.

I'm not paying any rent, it's his own house. I have no money really.