I think I am in love with s/o who doesn't love me in return

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Have you ever fallen in love with someone who doesn't know it, or who doesn't love you in return?

Should I express myself more? I am uncertain about my own feeling right now, though! It's been going on for over a year.

I've certainly had obsessions/infatuations.
How well do you know this person? Is this person a friend, or just someone you've watched from afar?
Just gotta go out on a limb and try to associate with this person. Research kinesics a little to see if there's any interest at all or ask the person out.
The truth is, I don't know most of the situation, so it's up to you.

Don't cut off an ear, it probably won't help.

Yes.



What do you think would help you understand your feelings more?
That's where you should start.
If you do not understand your own feelings and then take further steps in your relationship with this other person, then find out your true feelings are not what your actions represent... this could make the whole situation worse.

Take a look at yourself and the other person.. very clinically perhaps.
Do you two share interests in something?
Are you attracted to this person due to looks, attitude, current life situation (for example... are they lonely and sad and you think you could change that?)?

What about your current life situation?
Are you looking for companionship or romance?

Once you understand yourself and your attraction to this other person, better, you should be able to come up with an idea of what to do next.

I tend to open up to the other person and live with the consequences... sometimes too much, too soon, and... sadly... to a person who doesn't feel the same way towards me and I never gave that serious consideration before speaking.

I hope that all makes sense.

Just express yourself. If you don't, nothing will ever develope between you and the other person. You'll just be left in longing.

I still think they need to understand their feelings better before they just express themselves.

I'm talking about coming out and saying they love this person, when sassyaspie mentions...

Check list,

Do they have a wife and two kids? The answer is no.

Are they in a relationship? The answer is no

Are they a student? The answer is no.

Are you looking for a friend, or a fling, or something long term? I would suggest starting at friend.

The unexplored life is not worth living, and human exploration gets wet and stickey.

Think it out, do you want to do that? That? That? Well how soon and in what order?

Post more here, we have little to work on, and very dirty minds.

I couldn't have said it better myself.

I think I've fallen in love with someone online. He doesn't know it though. All he knows is that I have feelings for him... And well, he has feelings for me too. It's a shame he lives in the US and I live in Australia.

And no, I am NOT saying who it is!

whats wrong with student?