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Last edited by GrantZilla on 09 Feb 2008, 5:33 am, edited 2 times in total.

But... that's kind of true... the majority of the people here can't get a BF/GF, or even friends for that matter, and AS is to blame. @_@

I don't know man. I'm always someone that thinks can work around anything. Yes, it's a challenge, and should be seen as a challenge.

I know it's frusterating as hell. When I was a teen I couldn't understand why I had such problems in relationships, and I had no real clue that I had AS, since wasn't even a diagnoses back then. I just thought I was a freak.

It still is difficult for me as far as relationships.

I respect that you are sick of peoples "pitty posts"...but I also think that people have a right to vent about problems that AS is causing them. If it's valid, then it should be accepted to be discussed.

Agreed. But I think there is a difference between discussing your problems and

"My life sucks, I'm loser, I got AS. I'll never get a woman....."

Some people have it worse than maybe you or I had it Grant. I too lived all my life not knowing anything about AS.. until 3 months ago.. on the same month of my 30th B-day. Talk about a middle age welcoming gift.

I coped and adapted and went through a lot growing up. But I never had meltdowns, never had severe depression nor did I have others looking down on me because I could not live up to expectations or because they knew I had a disability of sorts.



however I have never had a GF nor any meaningful friendship with a girl. Sucks to admit it but that's that. Right now its become a huge problem for me.. I dont want to be alone and lonely the rest of my life..

but I could not imagine what it must be like to have meltdowns plus depressions plus everyone else looking down on me. When I joined WP I could not help but be shocked at what some folk here go through.. I thought I had an inner strength to beat AS while growing up after finding out about AS ...but the people here humbled that out of me. I was just luckier (if I can use the word!) mine wasn't so bad.

Going to delete this post, because I think just came off as a d ick. I to suffer from depression that comes out of nowhere along with AS.

I just try not to let it control me or my life. But your right. Some people do have it worse.

BTW, do you know to delete your posts lol

Dont worry about what others think about this post.. your just venting too and I know every time I come to The Haven forum I leave a little more depressed.

Sometimes I even worry if the Haven forum might be a danger to people. If I come out feeling bad from reading what people say here then others must be feeling the same. Sometimes looking at these post its like I feel theres no hope for me and when people feel there is no hope anymore they can decide to give up. For some people to give up completely which is something I wont ever do I dont want others to.

I blaim my AS/HFA for not being able to form real true relationships.

Deleted post he says.. and yet, there it is.

It is possible to have a GF/BF if you have Asperger's Syndrome. Myself, I use the singles ads rather than conventional settings such as dances or parties. For me they are a good tool for finding someone.

That's good advice, and the internet is a great tool as well.

Have you tried forums where people have the same interests as you? (I don't think WP is the ideal place because AS isn't something to build a relationship on.) But if there are any subjects, hobbies, favorite shows, etc that you're interested in, you can find an online group who share your passion, you might find someone you like, and of course you'll always have something to talk about.

You may want to ask a moderator to lock and sink this thread or blow it up... its still here... hahaha....

My AS doesn't affect me much, so I've never had trouble finding a boyfriend. I've had four already, including my current one. But yeah, if someone on here really can't find a BF/GF they should try going on Aspie Affection.