wanting social contact but unable to handle it

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To sum it up: I want/ need social contact but I cannot tolerate it (it is exhausting, painful, awkward, confusing, and so on...). I feel like someone who is always hungry, but who throws up every time she eats.

Is anyone else like this?

Yes...I usually just give up and go home or walk off somewhere to be alone. And when I feel like I can handle it no one wants me around. They only seek me when I won't be able to stand it.

I am the opposite. I want social contact, but nobody wants to be my friend.

yes, all the time. I yearn for it, then if I get it I just want to run away and hide. It's horrible. So, what I do is just chat with people on yahoo messenger, that way when I feel like I can't tolerate contact anymore, I just say bye and sign off. No stress fix for the need for social contact.

I agree with above posts. I recently joined a group of people with similar interests to me, but they hardly meet anymore, and I am experiencing a sense of desperation. I was getting to some level of knowing what to expect, and now I am left high and dry. I don't have the courage to try to join another group! There aren't any Aspie support groups for adults, either, in my town.

I can relate.

If you want social contact but, cannot handle it...get a dog. That's why they are called, "Man's Best Friend."

Yep, the majority of the people who post here probably share the same problem/feeling as you do.

I want social contact. I can't get enough of the right people though. I was doing my best at socializing back in 2003 when I was with the Deaf-Blind. But nowadays no Deaf-Blind people want anything to do with me . I miss the Deaf-Blind !

I tend to socialize better with those who know American Sign Language (ASL). No hearing people want to learn it anymore. As for the Deaf, all they ever wanna do is work. I need the Deaf-Blind for 1) all the physical contact I must share with them due to their communication needs & 2) they have more time for me cuz they DON'T work full-time.

I will NEVER work full-time again. I tried it when I was 17 and the stress added up inside of me so quick I had to quit my job to save myself. Shouldn't nobody use work as a way to get away from me. But just about all sighted signers do it. That's why I gotta get back with the Deaf-Blind who sign...they have more time for me.

Yeah.
As others have said-no adult ASD groups in my geographical location, so online places are where I have to go to seek understanding (from people I'll never meet, for good or ill).

Crave interpersonal contact yet am averse to it as well. Theoretically, hypothetically, I want friends. When it comes to real-life situation (opportunity), though, I run screaming in opposite direction. Know it's a frustratingly contradictory bind, yet this is truly how I am. Aargh !

it may sound weird but try going to a bar, you useually trigger some kind of conversation and you don't really need to be carefull about what you say because everyone's been drinking and the chance you'll meet those people again is quite small.

I would love to be one of those people who have multiple friends but after all the "people" that i have encountered in the past 4 or 5 years i just dont trust anyone. The only people that i have contact with are my family and relatives.

I used to be like that, many years ago, it was anxiety or being so used to sitting inside doing nothing that I became ridiculously lazy and inattentive, because I had become introverted. I still often had remnants right up until I took antidepressants and then I got the horribleness back after I went off them but now I feel okay again and it's gone, except when I get depressive or social-anxiety episodes.

Yeah man, I'm like that all the time nowadays. I really hope it's something I'll grow out of.