I hate my mom so much

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Long story...

My mom really abused my dad when she was married to him, and also was seeing other men at the same time. At one point it was so bad I had to get her to leave the house... That was when I was 6/7/8/somewhere around there... Then my dad finally divorced her. Him divorcing her was the only good thing to haoppen between them... My mom then spent several years ignoring court orders when it came to her duties with me and my siblings (thank God we were living with my dad)... My mom never accepted my step mom, and even though she openly admits to hating my dad, still views him as hers (as a possession, not a human)... Further my mom has bribed me and my siblings to come live with her, and tried to convince us of her good will with things like giving us whatever we wanted and constantly suggesting we move in with her. She also was not too carefull with her words, and always made it sound as if she had no money, and was paying shild support for no reason, and we should live with her (and between the lines that she wanted my dad to pay her child support).

So my sister starts to go through troubling times, and my mother sees this and immediatly jumps on it as her opportunity to start exerting control over my sister. And she starts grooming her with gifts, and the likes, and treating her as a goddess... So my sister decides to move in with her, and almost goes through with it without telling anyone (she was 15 at the time) and 2 days before she left, my dad, step mom, and I piece together what was going on, and manage to get a councellor involved, and my sister stays a while longer, while the councillor helps to figure out what is best for my sister. 3 months go by, and all of a sudden, without warning, and without the councillor knowing ahaead of time, my sister moves in with my mother for what she called a "trial period"... All goes well during the 3 month trial for my sister, and then the trial is over she decides to stay...

My sister then starts to experience my mother's controlling manipulative side... My mother starts making her feel bad for seeing my dad, and not letting her stay overnight when she should for her own good and stuff like that. Now my sister is torn between my mom's control, and not being able to easily break free of it, and my dad who she still loves dearly. My sister would be ready to move back in with my dad if it weren't for my mom, and is looking for a reason to do so (she always looks for the easy way out).

Since I have started school, my mom has slowly been trying to exert her control over me, as I am not living every single day at my dad's house. She has been forcing her money on me (for reasons to do with court), and is trying to look like a good willed parent whil trying to keep me very close to her. I didn't talk to her for 2 weeks, and she sent my step brother to check on me at my dorm... Today, my step brother told her he hadn't seen me in class, and she sends me a text message asking if I am all right, and such. She is a twisted person, and she is trying to get me feeding out of her hand as well... She is also aware that out of all her children, I have the best looking future, assuming I actually do some of the stuff I want to, and is constantly telling me "Remember where you came from when you get rich" and stuff suggesting she wants to use me for my money, which is something she has done to many many people (she stole money meant for me, without telling me that I even was getting that money, found that out from my grandparents who gave it to her to give to me... she is also not poor, as she lives with a wealthy guy, she also has gotten money from other sources for things she wasn't actually doing, and drained funds from anyone she could leech off of)...

She is a twisted twisted person who just wants for herself and noone else. I am so sick of her, and I can't cut myself off from her just yet, as I still need my current phone number for a couple of things I have ordered... But as soon as they come in I am having my phone number changed... I just wanted to rip my hair out and scream right now over everything she has done and is doing... Also, I have left 30 pages or so out of this post of stuff she has done, and for those of you that know what standard deviation is, she is between 3 and 4 standards deviations away from the mean when it comes to her twistedness...

Anyways, How do I cut myself off from her completely? She will still ahve my facebook, and that scares me a bit. What can I do to get away from her and never have to hear from her again?

Your mother sounds like a narcissist using your sister for narcisstic supply. http://samvak.tripod.com/faq76.html. She maybe psychopathic.

The facebook thing I don't know, and screenname cannot be changed... I am actually avoiding using facebook so I don't have to see her there...

Don't have her as a friend on facebook and she won't be able to view your profile... I think

Why is facebook a problem? Just don't post stuff on the wall etc. This sounds just like my mom but I don't have a father or siblings and any other extended members of the family won't have much to do with us. If we meet some new people they really like her at first but that doesn't last long. She's incredibly manipulative. If I have a girlfriend she sees her as competition.. It doesn't seem right to cut her off completely though.

I'd move away, FAR away, if I were you, Padium. Block her number, Facebook, email, etc, and don't tell her your new address. I suggest your sister and possibly your father do the same. But you mention you are still in school, which could moving away difficult to do...I don't know specifics about your situation, of course, this is just what I, personally, would do if I were in your place.

Dee facebook ting, delete your current one and if you'd like, make a new one but just tell her you deleted your Facebook all together. Use a fake name for your name and a new email she doesn't know.

When your change your number, you shud be able to get mainly away from her. After college, don't let her know where you are living. Then she will never be able to get to you.

You can easily remove her as a friend. There is a link on the bottom left hand corner to do so. I wish you luck.

Sounds exactly what my dad dose to my brother and sister (i was the first one to rebell) eventlualy they have to but he tries to exert as much control over them as possible...

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