I confess to no longer being able to withstand a certain pressure.
A decision that I didn't make led to a reasoning that I did make. Long term choices I made before were taken for granted and were used in attempts to steer my hand. Unfortunately for that person, I may be a man of my word, but at the same time, I cannot be controlled or bought with my own loyalty. Just because I made the choice to remain, waiting for a future time, it does not mean I cannot be driven away. When my promises become another person's trading card against me, or against anyone, that is when they lose all merit.
That person has thrown away a potential life partner, but not a friend. The reason is not because I actually concede anything. The reason is not because I choose to be persistent. The reason is because I know the source of the entire fiasco, and I take into account the fact that I am not the only one in distress. I count in the fact that this person is perhaps bleeding far more than I am. I see the pettiness reaching fever pitch, and the shutting out carried to the extreme, and my only response is to hope. To hope that one day the pain for that person will cease, and that my loyal support will be accepted. To hope that my continued friendship throughout a time when it is unseen, throughout a time when it is rejected, both vocally and in action, throughout this time it is perhaps even harder to give than anything else... will be taken for what it is, and not seen as insufficient.
Whether that ever happens or not, I will remain incapable of the same that I have received. I cannot ignore, praying the other to go away. I cannot falsely enlist others to some kind of gang around myself, to shield me from my shortcomings and act as public relations officers. No. Though I may have the ability to do all of that, I don't have the ingredient that matters. Disregard.
Still, however, I continue to defend and remain a loyal friend to that person. But that is now the sum total of the future. It can be the foundation no more.
I am absolutely sure my dearest friend will read this, and probably not like it, but the point is there. The point being that my extension of friendship is something not many people would do in my situation, especially not the person I was recently compared to. But like it or not, it's not your call. I make the decisions, and my decision is to make love not war. It always has been. It's up to you not to piss on your own throne.
((((hugs))))
~Loving Light~