Do you have certain words you don't like people saying?

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This thread is quite interesting, because everyone who has posted on this topic has one word or more what they get upset at people saying, and when I read them I probably thought, ''how would that word upset you - it never upsets me!'' But then when you read the words I don't like people saying, you probably think to yourselves, ''but why the hell would she get upset when people say that word? It doesn't mean anything when people say that to me!''
That's probably how Autism works - we all have different things what upsets us, what seems unique to eachother and NTs. There's nothing wrong in it. It's just interesting. I'm glad I started this thread, because now I know that it is normal for an Aspie to have a small list of words in your mind what you're really stubborn on when other people mention them.
I think even NTs have some words what annoy them in some way, but the type of words what annoy me don't seem to have any reason why - it just seems to blow a fuse inside me when the particular words are mentioned.
When I was a kid, I used to really hate the word ''Asperger's Syndrome'' being mentioned. I hated it. I used to get into some sort of rage. When I got to about 11 or 12, I still hated it being mentioned, but I wouldn't get into a rage. I would just go all red in the face from embarrassment. Then since I was about 18 or 19, I didn't get these horrible feelings about the word any more. Instead I get excited, and want to hear more when it's mentioned, and I love to sit and talk about it.

"I can't help it" This annoys me.

"It's who I am" or "You have to accept me for who I am" along these lines. it sets me into rage and it comes from my ex who said this but he actually meant I have to accept him being a jerk and him teasing me and using sarcasm and didn't give rats how hard it was or how stressful it was. So now I hate hearing those words and it sets me into rage and a meltdown and puts me off and I easily judge if I hear them because I take it literal now.

People calling their private bathroom the restroom. This is something I am used to hearing out in public for public bathrooms, not bathrooms in your home. It just annoys me and drives me crazy.

"fa***t" I hate this word.

The n word for black people

"n***a"

I can't stand excessive swearing.

The other two I won't even mention fearing it might piss people here off.

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I hate it when people say, ''you can't stop me,'' as though I'm laying down the law or something, when I'm not. We all have a right to give opinions, but giving opinions doesn't always mean you're stopping them. You can't exactly drag a person to where you want them and pin them down then make them do what you want them to do, but you can sit and encourage them that they should live in the real world (if what they wanted to do is going to be a big mistake). For example, my cousin wants to get married to her control-freak of a partner (a bloke who beats her up and stops her seeing all friends and family, except her mum). Her mum won't stop her, but there's nothing wrong in saying, ''look, you know what he is like. Are you sure you want to go through with it and be under his control even more, knowing that it upsets you, or do you want to come away right now and be free and meet the man you will really love?'' Nothing is wrong in that. But people seem to use the ''you can't stop me!'' phrase as a form of defence, and usually it's because they have a feeling deep down that they shouldn't be going along with what they're about to do, but have no courage to stop themselves. This is why those 4 and a half words drive me mad when people say it.

And some of us have learnt something in this post: NTs make stupid mistakes with their lives too.

Oh, and I hate people going, ''sshh'' to me. I always have done, ever since I was about 4 years old. Again, it depends in what sort of reason they say it. If I'm being noisy, and someone just says, ''ssshhh!'', I'm OK with it, because I know I was being noisy. (When I shout I get a sore throat and/or a headache anyway). But say if I was just talking and something came on the TV and someone said, ''sshhhh!! !'' in the middle of what I was saying, I don't like it. Or I hate it when somebody's on a mobile phone and I didn't realise and I started talking, and they go, ''ssshhhh!! !'' really harshly or angrily, I don't like that either. I don't know why but it makes me feel really stupid or embarrassed for some reason. I will never know why. There is no explanation. It's just something I don't like. It's strange, because when people say, ''shush,'' I'm fine with it. I don't get any embarrassed feelings at all. But when people just say, ''ssshhh!'' I do get embarrassed or upset. I'd even rather someone say ''shut up!'' than ''sshhhh!''

My mind is such a weird thing!

- Every time I read "Aspie" or "autie", I feel like someone is jabbing a pointy object into my eyes.
- "Golly" is also an obnoxious word. it makes me think of a sickly sweet, overly precious protagonist in a Victorian childrens' book or Norman Rockwell painting.
- "Moose knuckle" is disgusting. Just typing that made me want to vomit.

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Not a word as such but the phrase "I'm not being funny, but..." gives me the red mist. People only use that line when are being funny

how 'bout if it were all with gesture/pantomine instead of words, like the index finger placed in front of the mouth to indicate "quiet" or the hand gesture of the T [horizontal left hand over verticle right hand] to indicate "time out"?



vive la différence!

I don't like it when people put their index finger to their mouth either. Only as I've got older I started to care less and less, because sometimes people just do it to you before they want to play a practical joke on someone, so it isn't personal. I should just grin and watch them do the practical joke. Now I understand that the more I have certain words or gestures what I don't like people saying, the more people will think I'm too oversensitive or a bit odd. So I've learnt to ignore it and move on.

I like the ''time-out'' one though.

That large people are fat lazy slobs who don't eat properly and exercise and that everybody of the same height and gender should be the same size. I hate it when people say that. I love my body.

MANY!

1. Headcase

2. ret*d

3. Neurotic (in slang)

4. Psychotic (in slang)

5. Unfortunately

6. "Like Fingernails on a Blackboard"

7. "Pardon me?"

8. "EXCUSE ME?" (when used in the sense when you are upset with a person, like saying "excuse me? you are being very loud!")

9. Gullet

10. "Take a Deep Breath"

"Calm down."

Most words don't bother me, but any word with a popping (<- example ) "p" in it has a large chance at making me feel nauseous >_<

Many--many of them being terms for body parts or bodily functions which I find unpleasant (the terms unpleasant, that is). I'd rather not repeat them and some would not be permitted, anyway. I also do not like words said out of grammatical ignorance (knowingly being ungrammatical is fine by me, though), such as "irregardless."

A few of the words above mentioned by other people I find to be annoying as well. Typically, though, I hate the words "baby, cutie, plump," when used talking about people, or even fruit in the case of "plump". The tone sickens me. I don't mind "She had a baby" or something like that. But I hate affectionate tones unless used towards animals, with the exception of a more gentle, serious affectionate tone used by my boyfriend.

I also hate exclamations of disgust. The drawn out "Eewwww" especially.

Woo

n****r

Not a word, a phrase. My mum will say 'you know', when she can't think how else to describe something and expects me to know the rest. Usually she hasn't given nearly enough information for anyone to know what she's talking about.

I also hate hearing people using antiquated terms:
'handicapped' (this literally means 'cap in hand', i.e. beggar), instead of 'disabled'
'coloured' instead of 'black' or 'African American' as you say over there
and that 'm' word instead of 'Down's Syndrome'.