Starting your own family.

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I want to continue my Dad's side of the family as well as have something that's a part of me, because I'm my Dad's only child and my Gran's only granchild since none of my dad's brothers have any children. So I feel it's important for me to do this.

Today I was at whataburger and a dad was carrying his son (who was maybe 3 or 4) out, the kid wrapped his arms around his dads neck like he was giving him a hug, and wiped his catchup covered hands on the back of his dads shirt And a part of me was looking forward to something like that happening if/when I become a dad.

I think I'd be really good at it.

I think I'd be rubbish at it! I don't think I want to be a mother though or that I could deal with the chaos children create. Which is just as well as I doubt I will be meeting anyone any time soon anyway and I might be getting on a bit. If it never happens though I sometimes wonder if on my death bed I'll regret it. Either way I think it's safer for the species if I don't.

I'm not particularly interested in having a family.

EnglishJess, you'd have plenty of time even in your 30's. Focus on your school and avoid boys.. *wags finger*

I find myself pulled between what I want myself. Most people think "kids" directly, but its more than that. Who you choose, to who you raise will exponentially effect your life's path. Kids are cute, and I'm good with them. My niece is strangely enough 7 years old and can talk with me most of the time on the same level. If shes confused with a word she asks and I explain it throughly and she usually nods and says okay. She also makes me feel at ease mostly due to the fact I force myself to be compliant to my surroundings when shes with me. But where is the sanity in bringing a child into the world, when you look down at them with a blank stare and simply think rather than playing and caring for them?

What if they terrorize you, make poor choices, go out and break a leg. Your emotions for them would drag you down into the pits of despair.. How could you care for yourself when you care for another more. This little bundle of "joy" and emotion, a bundle of terror and nuisance. A liability, and part of you? I think perhaps this isn't for me, although I probably want a family - some day.

The truth is, I want to be a young parent, I don't want to wait till my 30's, that might be too late. And even though people think I can't do a lot because I wouldn't be able to cope, I want to prove that I can. And I may have to do things I don't want to, but that's a risk I'm going to have to take.

I have three children and a husband. They're pretty awesome, most of the time. I had my oldest when I was 22 and I wouldn't choose any differently if I could somehow go back in time and make different choices. All my children will be well over 18 by the time I'm 50 years old and then I can do whatever I want and will have enough experience to know what it is I want to do.

I would like a girlfriend then hopefully get married however don't want kids as there is far too much responsibility and would find it very stressful.

Perhaps but just not today. First off I can barely trust anyone relationship-wise due to a badly broken heart second I am not financially capable of raising a family at least until after college. In my future profession I will be doing a lot of international travel so chances of me raising a family from at home might be rather low due to my constant traveling unless the wife loves to travel. Otherwise I might end up with someone from over seas. Most likely from Japan, China, Philipines Vietnam etc. I have accepted those possibilities and have comes to terms with it. Familywise otherwise? just not today.

a cat or two will do the job. i missed the boat with someone that messed it up and has regretted it since. maybe a hamster as well, why not