Nursing in public

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I'm fine with it in public. It's so easy to not look at them and so easy to ignore and I am too busy minding my own business I don't notice someone is nursing their baby and when I do notice, I am still to busy to even care or watch. But for the sake of courtesy, I have always found a empty spot to do it or tried doing it in a corner or in my car or away from people where they were chatting and visiting and eating. I would sit at another table or something or away from the crowd. My son would pull down the blanket and if I held it on, he wouldn't nurse so I did do it in the open but my boob was still covered. If someone is doing it discreetly and you see no boob, what is the problem?

My son wouldn't even drink from the bottle (he did for a little while but then after a while he wouldn't anymore) because he was so used to my boob and he also liked fresh breast milk, not frozen or that has been sitting in the fridge for a few days or hours. Unless I wanted to deal with my son screaming in public and crying because he is hungry but won't take the bottle unless he is starving but he would still cry because he would only drink until that feeling went away and still be hungry, breast was better.

I think it should be more of a private thing unless the mother can't get to a private place at the time.

On the bright side: at least the baby isn't crying loudly.

Hm...Giving the breast directly in the second the child shows to be hungry, being able to simply go out with a child or being forced to pump yourself at a machine like a cow, washing and sterilizing the machine again, everytime you dare to leave your house as a mom of a toddler, and taking a load with you in a bag, just in case that the toddler is hungry, throwing the non needee milk away, cleaning and sterilizing every bottle, only because someone thinks whyever that a breast is as ugly as poop-pile.

Whenever people cry around that asocial people that dare to have kids, I think myself, that if they are not able to be around normal human society, which includes toddlers and their families, why they dont simply avoid it? Whats next? Shall males between 18 and 80 be forced to do half an hour of cleaning kitchen stuff, before leaving their house only because someones decides, that without them doing so, he cant stand their appearance?

I mean dont get me wrong, I absolutley understand the problems of hearing issues, when it comes to children and so on. But they are simply a must-have part of society, they need to exist and banning their parents out of public and punishing them for having kids is not the right way in my eyes. I tend more to simply wear earplugs. Or turn my head in another direction if I dont like the sight of something. Its the same with man peeing in public, whats happening occasional here from now and then. You simply turn your head, and its done, so as long as they dont pee at a spot where they shouldnt, I dont care.

And what the hell do you do at the beach? Telling every woman that does sunbathing without bra, to have a seamless brown skin, that you want her to hide under a burka, so that you are no longer opposed by a random female body part, that you have decided to think of it as disgusting this month?

No. Because defacating is unsanitary and bacteria can make people sick. Plus it smells pretty awful if it isn't cleaned up. Additionally, it is littering. Nursing a baby does not cause litter, but when the baby poops, then yes, the baby gets changed in a private area for sanitary/hygiene reasons. I don't want to look at other women's floppy breasts nor did I want anyone to watch mine, so I used a nursing cover when I nursed in public. If a woman chooses not to cover up while nursing, she is allowed to do it by law (depending on which state, as laws can vary) so I have the right to look the other way if it makes me uncomfortable.

It's completely natural, I don't see what the problem is.

Comparing feeding a baby to defecating or having sex is just stooopid.

It's a common argument anti public breast feeders use to try and win their argument and to be right and to get their point across. I think the problem is boobs have made to be a sexual thing and were taught as such and they just can't separate it from breast feeding so they see it as sexual so it bothers them when they see it. I have seen a few say online it's child molestation.

But yet pro public breast feeders have used the argument "Would you want to eat under a blanket" 'Would you want to eat your food in the bathroom" and they say other things like "do you go out to your car every time you need to eat" or "do you eat your food in private" to also win and get their point across.


My argument has always been don't look if it bothers you. Turn your back.

If someone wants to be overt with their boobs when feeding to make a statement then they should expect comments and reactions.

If most people in an area recognise that someone is feeding their child it probably means they are too nosy.

I really can't understand that someone would suggest to feed a baby in the toilets.

On the other hand, nobody wants to see baby poo unless they have to, that is where discretion should be applied.

I worked for a guy recently and he kept his cat's food and water next to it's litter box, I did suggest that this may have contributed to the cat's stressed behaviour but he refused to accept this.

This is like my first deliberate post in Random Discussion ever.

There's nothing gross about breast-feeding, and the notion that breasts are "obscene" and need to be covered in public is largely due to the prurient nature of our society.

Let mothers take care of their babies. Don't make it your business.

Yes, it really is.
(I have breastfed my two children until they were three and a half.)
Not being rude here, just that it is up to you what you do with your attention; why go looking into other people's lives for stuff that really grosses you out?

It doesn't bother me as long as they are discreet. There are ways to do it without being too noticeable or showing too much.

Because, in a society, everyone has to be considerate to each other and compromise.

Now, I can live with discreete feeding, under a blanket, maybe moving to a more secluded place (ie move from the table in the middle of the restaurant to a corner), but the mothers should at least attempt to be a little... discreete. Not like the other day, in the veggie-isle of the grocery store, whipping out the boob, no cover, nothing. She couldn't have made it to the dog-food section that is generally not too crowded to do that? Maybe use a cover?

But it seems that having a baby makes some people (and these are probably few and far between, but they are the one I notice) think they do not have to be considerate to others, only htat everyone else has to be considerate to them.

They may be inconsiderate,but let's put the baby first.It just wants food,it has no idea you are offended.I'm glad that moms are breast feeding,but I was never comfortable with my boobs
showing.This must be a new trend in some areas,I've never seen moms flailing their mammaries about.

I bet some of the guys are wondering where those women are too

I'm sure the baby will not die from starvation in 30sec-a minute...

No,but it will cry,which is way more annoying than a nursing baby.You can't tell a baby "don't be hungry now."