How me and my brother and my sister were to bring up:-
Me
As a child: I was my parent's most challenging child, taking up a lot of their attention
As a teenager: I was friendless and became a bit of a burden, often crying for a friend and took it out on my mother
As an adult: I started off crazy but I think I found my two feet once I met my husband and moved out. I'm in a job and have not neglected myself or anything
Skills: I am the most creative one, maybe even the brightest in a way, although my IQ is in the 90s
My sister
As a child: She had delays in her learning but not anything to cause great stress for our parents. She received help at school but didn't require a diagnosis or anything (lucky!) She wasn't too difficult to bring up but had OCD-like tendencies, like she didn't like her stuff being touched in her room and she always kept her room immaculate
As a teenager: She got in with the wrong crowd and was easily led. I still envied her for having friends of her own and getting out and about, but they weren't really the right people to get involved with. Then she got a bit involved with boys, but luckily didn't end up pregnant (I don't think she had sex or anything, as she was too shy)
As an adult: Her adult years started off with being in an abusive relationship where she was controlled and isolated from the family, but 10 years later she finally got out of it and seems strangely unscarred by it all. She's in a low-paying job and has a baby, so she seems to be doing all right, just plodding along really like me
Skills: She can seem to cope through any hardships and doesn't seem to express anxiety or stress, even though she's gotten stressed and anxious at work. But she definitely doesn't get depressed. I'm still wondering why she isn't suffering from any PTSD from the abusive relationship she was in for 10 long years, because she was abused and bullied by the psychopath bloke she was with
My brother
As a child: He was the most well-behaved one out of the three of us, and didn't take up a lot of attention from our parents. He was sensitive and quiet, but he had a lot of friends
As a teenager: He was just average really. Wasn't too difficult, but got influenced into smoking and drinking and skipping school. He had friends and spent more time with them than he did with family, probably because of me he was rather forgotten
As an adult: He became withdrawn and a depressive, gave up his job and is now claiming a disability benefit. He has mental health issues that somehow got diagnosed as AS, but I don't think it's AS, it seems more like bipolar and depression to me, as he's never had social awkwardness or sensory issues or anything like that, and naturally had a lot of friends throughout childhood even though he had a shy temperament and didn't have an interest in sports or anything
Skills: I don't know really. He doesn't have learning difficulties or anything, but no skills either. Maybe that's why he's depressed, I don't know. He's never been creative like me and my sister. He's good with children, and he likes books, movies and music, and knows a lot about them. He is asexual and hasn't had a girlfriend since he was a teenager. I think being asexual gets to him, as it makes him feel isolated