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Thats practically all i know. I dont even know what she looks like.

More less this is how convo went.

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Relative: you'll never guess...born 1989. Never gets past first dates. blah blah. Slightly autistic. Wants babies. etc
Me: What does she look like?
Me: So she's single?
Me: Your friends daughter?
Relative:You know, f----, the one who posted picture of herself in bra and panties (dont ask.)
Me:Oh yeah her...i do'nt remember what she looks like. ( aphantasia)
Me:I guess i can work out genetics of daughter from her photo.
Relative: No she might be completely different.
Me:Im sure she has a photo online with her daughter...
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Me: *jokingly rehearsing what i will say* Why hello f---, how are you? who is this pretty woman, is this your daughter?
Me: oh,, you look so young f---, you two could be sisters.
Relative:

Me: *suspicious* Can't get past first dates.....Shes not ret*d is she?
Relative: noooooo

I missed my anniversary date on WP. Feb 7 marked one year.

On day 1, the universe says, "I see what you're doing. It won't work."
Day 2: "Impressed. Still won't work."
Day 3: "Don't you have anything better to do?"

Doing some online investigating.

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So I know her mothers full name.
I'm trying to figure out who her daughters are
Ive got multiple names, Rebecca, Suzanna, JAsmine
I check facebook.
I see photos.
Her relatives.
I'm trying to figure out whos who.
Lot of blondes.
All pretty good looking.
...oooohh

Now iv'e just gotta find a way to get her into my life....
Definitely interested...
Now the only question is..will she go out with somebody like me?


She might be a graphic designer, at a university...
That one looks like a freakin supermodel

If she the one looking to make babies...

Does anybody know what the definition of a stalker is,

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So relatives, friends, daughter
Shes a cross between Alanis morrissette, and Patricia Arquette,.
Photos of her blonde, redbrownhair, pinkhair
She very slim.
Perfect white teeth.
Very Attractive.
She wants a child within next '5' years.
And she wants a relationship too.
Not just a 'donor.'
And she lives 13 miles away from me.
She looks to be everything you could ever want.
Physically, in a woman.

She might be 'picky' though...
I cant imagine why shes single.

Would love to meet her....
Asked relative, for more details about her.
Relative doesn't want to 'pry ' too much
Doesn't feel comfortable playing 'matchmaker'
I say ;
"Why the hell you mention her then?"
You cant just drop this on me.

Especially now, that i know what she looks like
Have no idea what her personality is....
I would say....in one word
Arty.

Stalker:

In 1995 a research paper titled "Stalking Strangers and Lovers" was among the first to use the term "stalking" to describe the common occurrence of males after a breakup who aggressively pursue their female former partner. Prior to that paper instead of the term "stalking", people more commonly used the terms "female harassment", "obsessive following" or "psychological rape".

Stalking is unwanted and/or repeated surveillance by an individual or group toward another person. Stalking behaviours are interrelated to harassment and intimidation and may include following the victim in person or monitoring them. The term stalking is used with some differing definitions in psychiatry and psychology, as well as in some legal jurisdictions as a term for a criminal offence.

According to a 2002 report by the U.S. National Center for Victims of Crime, "virtually any unwanted contact between two people that directly or indirectly communicates a threat or places the victim in fear can be considered stalking", although in practice the legal standard is usually somewhat stricter.

A person who illegally follows and watches someone, especially a woman, over a period of time.

A person who stalks : a person who pursues someone obsessively and aggressively to the point of harassment celebrity stalkers In 1990, California was the first state to pass a stalking law that made it a crime to follow, threaten, or harass someone—especially if the stalker threatened violence.

Stalking has been defined as a man following or contacting a woman, despite clear indication of disinterest by the woman, or monitoring her use of the Internet or electronic communication.


Not sure why the last ones are so heteronormative. Stalking can be any person(s) against any other person(s). ^


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Basically, it's when one person becomes obsessed with another, with or without their knowledge, and they do not respect the other person's privacy or personal boundaries. There doesn't have to be violent intent. This can be in the form of cyberstalking (online digging for information, surveillance, messaging, photography, threats, extortion, and relentless pursuit), or it can happen in real life.


How / where did you find the photos of this woman? If it was social media can't you message her directly and say that you're related to her mother's friend?

I think I have an answer to why some stalled relationships bother me more than others. The ones where there is someone insisting they value me when they do not are in a state of contradiction, and if I was just able to make them work the way the other person says they are working, the contradiction would be resolved. So, I work toward that and find only more frustration and rejection. More contradiction, but they still insist I'm wrong, so I continue to give them the benefit of doubt, because I want to be wrong. I want this to be working, so if I think it isn't working, maybe I'm wrong. So I persist, and fail, and get rejected some more. By the time I give up, I also feel like a chump, I feel like I've been teased, I feel like they probably think I'm pathetic.

Found a blog from 2010. She has a degree in 'Design and Art Direction' She seems every intellectual,artistic.

"Hi - My name is _____ and I'm related to your mother's friend ______. I'm _____ years old and I live ________ . I am diagnosed on the spectrum (however you want to describe it ... but keep it brief), and this made (Relative) mention to me that you were also on the spectrum (however you want to describe it). It's quite rare for me to meet other autistic people so I just wanted to say hello. I didn't know how to contact you but I found this (one) picture of you by looking for your mother's account. I hope this isn't too forward for me to reach out to you in this way. If you're interested in chatting please feel free to contact me on ____________ . Regards and have a great day".

A test that I’m about to take, that I feel confident about but am still nervous about as I haven’t taken a test in this class yet, and I’m not sure what to expect.

If I ever want to get a place, I'll likely take the 'no pets allowed' zones, provided anyone else are not hypocritical about it.

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I don't know if this is taking things to far.
But this is how i approach things...
Single mindedly...

Whats on my obsessive compulsive mind?
Naturally, this woman that has popped onto my radar.

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(Her writing style actually reminds me of "Lost_dragon" who post here...
Who I would natural try to hit on, if she didn't make it clear she was a lesbian...lol)