Graelwyn wrote:
But selfless acts can be totally ruined...in my eyes...by one selfish act.
Here we differ. I am content with what I have been given; should it be ruined in the future, I shall, of course, be disappointed. But I will remember what was and what was given. The past is preserved for me; I cannot (and would not) change it.
Graelwyn wrote:
Why be selfless on occasion then ruin it?
Because, as you pointed out, it's impossible to be completely selfless. Even those who seem so are not; there are flaws in everyone. Even those who give would like to be given, if only occasionally. People make mistakes; everyone makes mistakes. It's... taxing to try to go against human nature forever.
Graelwyn wrote:
hmm... I need to gather my thoughts on this as it is really confusing and bothering me, not to mention disillusioning.
I hope you can work it out well.
Graelwyn wrote:
I suppose, one could say, the ultimate in enlightenment is when you can forgive anyone anything and just put it down to human imperfection ?
I would not know. I think forgiving anything is a bit drastic; however, when an otherwise good individual errs, it's important to remember that we are human, we are imperfect, and forgiveness is kind, especially if it seems hard to give.
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