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26 Oct 2023, 12:10 pm

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I might go out tomorrow but nothings final yet



I am going out Saturday to celebrate halloween



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26 Oct 2023, 12:13 pm

Are you dressing up


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26 Oct 2023, 6:15 pm

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Are you dressing up


No



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27 Oct 2023, 1:10 am

Well you stay out of trouble then and remember the rules


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27 Oct 2023, 2:56 am

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Well you stay out of trouble then and remember the rules



Yeah don't follow people around



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27 Oct 2023, 3:04 am

Thats right and no staring as well.


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27 Oct 2023, 3:07 am

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Thats right and no staring as well.



Staring sometimes is just part of having autism

It can't always be helped



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27 Oct 2023, 3:18 am

I know but not everyone will appreciate that so it's upto you to try and train yourself to not do it so much.


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27 Oct 2023, 3:32 am

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I know but not everyone will appreciate that so it's upto you to try and train yourself to not do it so much.



There was one guy on the undatables who was a model called Tom Morgan. Some people commented saying that because he was good looking his odd mannerisms made him more endearing. Bur that if he was ugly or average girls would reject him for being a creep :(



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27 Oct 2023, 3:53 am

Well it just proves how people are doesn't it.

There is sometimes a guy in the pub I go in who has autism and downs syndrome and he stares at me sometimes but I don't mind that but if he didn't have downs syndrome and just autism then his disability would become invisible and some people might take offence to him staring.

Your disability is invisible so people are less likely to give you any consideration when you are behaving oddly (in their opinion).

It's sad but sometimes you have to just suck it up. I give myself about 2 seconds to look at anyone and then I move my eyes on to something or someone else. Just try not to get fixated on one thing no matter how attractive it is.


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27 Oct 2023, 4:02 am

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Well it just proves how people are doesn't it.

There is sometimes a guy in the pub I go in who has autism and downs syndrome and he stares at me sometimes but I don't mind that but if he didn't have downs syndrome and just autism then his disability would become invisible and some people might take offence to him staring.

Your disability is invisible so people are less likely to give you any consideration when you are behaving oddly (in their opinion).

It's sad but sometimes you have to just suck it up. I give myself about 2 seconds to look at anyone and then I move my eyes on to something or someone else. Just try not to get fixated on one thing no matter how attractive it is.



The problem is having to fight against your nature and control your eye contact can take a lot of mental effort.

I don't think there is any solution to this problem is there?



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27 Oct 2023, 4:31 am

babybird wrote:
Well it just proves how people are doesn't it.

There is sometimes a guy in the pub I go in who has autism and downs syndrome and he stares at me sometimes but I don't mind that but if he didn't have downs syndrome and just autism then his disability would become invisible and some people might take offence to him staring.

Your disability is invisible so people are less likely to give you any consideration when you are behaving oddly (in their opinion).

It's sad but sometimes you have to just suck it up. I give myself about 2 seconds to look at anyone and then I move my eyes on to something or someone else. Just try not to get fixated on one thing no matter how attractive it is.




In your opinion why do these 'odd' mannerisms make attractive people even more appealing compared to not so attractive people?



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27 Oct 2023, 4:33 am

Jamesy wrote:
babybird wrote:
Well it just proves how people are doesn't it.

There is sometimes a guy in the pub I go in who has autism and downs syndrome and he stares at me sometimes but I don't mind that but if he didn't have downs syndrome and just autism then his disability would become invisible and some people might take offence to him staring.

Your disability is invisible so people are less likely to give you any consideration when you are behaving oddly (in their opinion).

It's sad but sometimes you have to just suck it up. I give myself about 2 seconds to look at anyone and then I move my eyes on to something or someone else. Just try not to get fixated on one thing no matter how attractive it is.



The problem is having to fight against your nature and control your eye contact can take a lot of mental effort.

I don't think there is any solution to this problem is there?


Yeah it's really hard to go against your own nature but if you can learn to do it, it might help you in the long term.

The solution is that you find a solution.


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27 Oct 2023, 4:35 am

Jamesy wrote:
babybird wrote:
Well it just proves how people are doesn't it.

There is sometimes a guy in the pub I go in who has autism and downs syndrome and he stares at me sometimes but I don't mind that but if he didn't have downs syndrome and just autism then his disability would become invisible and some people might take offence to him staring.

Your disability is invisible so people are less likely to give you any consideration when you are behaving oddly (in their opinion).

It's sad but sometimes you have to just suck it up. I give myself about 2 seconds to look at anyone and then I move my eyes on to something or someone else. Just try not to get fixated on one thing no matter how attractive it is.




In your opinion why do these 'odd' mannerisms make attractive people even more appealing compared to not so attractive people?


I'm not a psychologist so I don't know. Maybe it's OK to be odd and attractive but not odd and not so attractive. It's just the way it is unfortunately.


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27 Oct 2023, 4:37 am

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Jamesy wrote:
babybird wrote:
Well it just proves how people are doesn't it.

There is sometimes a guy in the pub I go in who has autism and downs syndrome and he stares at me sometimes but I don't mind that but if he didn't have downs syndrome and just autism then his disability would become invisible and some people might take offence to him staring.

Your disability is invisible so people are less likely to give you any consideration when you are behaving oddly (in their opinion).

It's sad but sometimes you have to just suck it up. I give myself about 2 seconds to look at anyone and then I move my eyes on to something or someone else. Just try not to get fixated on one thing no matter how attractive it is.




In your opinion why do these 'odd' mannerisms make attractive people even more appealing compared to not so attractive people?


I'm not a psychologist so I don't know. Maybe it's OK to be odd and attractive but not odd and not so attractive. It's just the way it is unfortunately.



Halo effect?



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27 Oct 2023, 4:40 am

Yeals that's it :)


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