Helping others with a bad heart?

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Do you ever have times when you seem to be doing good things outwardly but you think of "unspeakable phrases" in your head?

An example is sometimes when I help people/classmates with math. I seem to be more than willing to help but I always think in my brain things like "Well, well, well, it looks like I'm smarter than you at this question" or "Haha! I can do this question and you can't." Sometimes I seem to enjoy it when people ask math questions because thats when I feel good about the fact that some people are "dumber than me at math". While explaining how to do a question I think to myself "Ya, thats right! I'm smarter than you!"

And when someone knows how to do a question I think to myself "Aw man, so she's not THAT stupid?"

For some reason, I get really agitated with my family when they need my help to do computer-related things. Using the computer comes as naturally as breathing to me, so I can't understand why it's so difficult for others to learn how to use one. Of course, I always help them while trying to suppress my irritation as best I can.

I sometimes give advice & listen to others problems but I'm thinking why am I bothering trying because I know the person will not take my advice & they will not do the same for me. I feel bad if I don't help thou but I sometimes feel like I'm wasting my time by trying

If it's only your time, it's not a big deal.

... Unless you don't have much of it of course.

Yea...I feel the same way in my math class. Hahaha, that is bad, I probably need to fix it. I think everybody feels that at one point or another, but you just need to suppress the voices. (DON'T LISTEN TO THE VOICES, THE VOICES!! !), haha, jk, you get what I mean

That doesn't exactly make you sound bad to me. Maybe it's just your competitiveness. You seem to be getting a confidence boost when you find you excel over other people. Try to stay grounded though.

Yes, I have those kinds of thoughts regularly, but not necessarily or always in direct comparison to myself. For example:

I was in the hardware store and looking for a certain plumbing fitting a few days ago, and I asked for help when I could not find what I needed ... and I soon discovered the department manager does not know how to measure something correctly. I did not say anything out loud, of course, but my mind was going wild:

"You're just kidding me, right?! You don't really believe that 7/8 fitting is 3/4, do you?! What the f---?!"

I was not angry with him or condemning him or anything, just absolutely shocked and left wondering what will happen in this world if those kinds of people ever grow in number.

Add: ... and I just remembered:

I then went to a plumbing-supply store nearby where someone there pulled a 7/8 fitting out of the 3/4 drawer and said, "There you go!" I then told her that fitting was 7/8, and she then pulled a 7/8 fitting out of the 7/8 drawer and held them up side-by-side to show me the non-existant difference!

I share your thought and concern about a "bad heart" in how we sometimes think about other people, and the best I know to do at the moment is to take such thoughts captive and at least quiet them.