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You know, I'm not a huge fan of Facebook, nor am I really a user of Facebook, although I have one, really only because everyone else does and they pressured me into it....However, I was browsing my friends' pages just now and I saw their friend counts, the average being close to 100 or well beyond it, and I felt kind of sad because I only have 44 friends on Facebook. It doesn't help my "I am a social ignoramus" mindset at all and it makes me feel like I'm not living up to everyone's standards. I also don't add every frackin' human being I come into contact with like everyone else seems to as well, maybe that's a bad thing? I don't view it as such. Does anyone else feel this way that uses Facebook? Probably not...I always seem to be the one who has almost no friends...*epicsadface*

I am mostly on there for the games.

I'm noticing most people I know do that too...I don't.

How do you choose your friends?
I only have 245 (used to have 247, and today I noticed I only had 245, grrr, 2 random people don't like me anymore I guess).
Anyways, the reason I say only is because most kids my age that are NT's, have at least 300 if not 400, 500, or 600 (about the average) or more friends.
However, I only choose people that I have met in real life on my real fb, which most of them I've got from school( especially cross-country).

My point is that it is good that you have discretion because if you have a bazillion friends, then you don't know any of them. If you pointed to anyone (aside from 2 people on there that I don't remember adding, but I think I know them) I could tell you how I met them, and where, and when.

Don't feel band about not having a lot of friends, feel good for making it such a high bar to pass that few can reach it. Because they are better friends for it.

Very true, though sometimes having a high bar can be a bad thing, for one it can make you look kind of uptight to outsiders. Then again, those who don't want to go beyond that probably aren't the people I wanted to know anyway. =D

Facebook is used by stalkers and jerks to be more accurate in their bullying, making it impossible to trust anyone, increasing my misanthropy, and providing me with yet more reasons to take off and antimatter the entire site from orbit.

If FB friends aren't that important to you - good for you! It's probably a good thing not to be obsessed by it, like everyone else seems to be. It strikes me as a little pathetic, even though my own friend count is 100+

I have to admit, most of the people I have added are from WP and some classmates I can actually stand.

I have over 100+ facebook friends also, 141 specifically. Prior to when trolls from IntensitySquared decided to use my data and photos to create fake profiles of me across the internet I had about 4,000 someodd facebook friends the most of which I didn't know. I reduced that down to people that I think I know now.

What is Facebook?

Needless to say I don't have a profile there or on any other social networking site. They seem totally superficial and pointless to me. Why have "friends" that you don't even know? It just seems like a childish popularity contest to me, to see who can have the most "friends".

Hear hear!

I use it only as a means for subscribing to all kinds of articles/sites of my interest. Also we have a group related to my studies where we exchange the information. Other than that is as useless as any other means of social networking.

I can see that might be useful.

One fundamental issue concerns me about facebook: I gather that all your "friends" are visible to each other? I definitely wouldn't want to put all my "associates" together in real life! In other words I keep separate my family members, current personal friends, former school/university friends, work colleagues, business contacts, WP members etc. I can't conceive of putting these different associates together!

So for example I definitely would not want my business contacts knowing of my membership on WP and details about Aspergers and how it affects my life! Similarly there are some former school friends who I definitely wouldn't want talking behind my back with work colleagues! Also, there are some family members I'd rather not know some of my personal friends. It just seems a recipe for disaster sooner or later in one's life giving people facilities to talk behind your back or stir s**t for you. Maybe not too much of a problem for young people who are still at college etc, but when they grow older and have families and work colleagues etc it could potentially be a huge problem. Do people really want prospective employers checking up on them to see what friends they have / had or that they like to get drunk out of their skull at weekends or do drugs or have Aspergers or other mental conditions?

Sooner or later everyone gets "enemies" or people who would like nothing better than to get at you for whatever reason. Maybe former girlfriends/boyfriends/spouses etc. Some people just like to hate anyway. So for example, one or two of the more aggressive members of WP that I have banned would find facebook a wonderful source of information to find ways to stick the knife into me, slandering me with my associates or using the information to generally mess with my life or income.

if you rarely post, and not ever anything serious, and if you don't give any substantial data - no one can track you.

You can name yourself whatever you want, and give any info you like! I doubt that anyone would check it.

As for the issue of privacy I couldn't agree more - as I said previously, I use it only as a stream of information, besides, messaging there is for free, unlike texting, or using the phone.

There's an option to choose what you can see, so you can also ignore those you don't want to see.

I see it as neither good nor bad, but definitely not a means for some quality socialisation.

i have 14… comprised of:

my four aspie kids, our dog (yes he has a profil maintained by my oldest daughter) and four young people under 20 yoa… leaving my "age appropriate" friends to four woman and one man…

and you only have 245?

I wouldn't be too worried about the friend count if I were you. Most people will add you if they met you at a gas station, gave you change at a restaurant, or filled the air in your tire. They add you and forget you. Its all about status. I remember working with this one girl for a day and after that she added me on Facebook......but otherwise doesn't even acknowledge that I exist even though she works at the ward down the hall from where I work.

Also, most people have really high friendcounts because it improves their Farmville experience in some way (I wouldn't know, I don't play it or intend to).

I don't have a facebook.

Not because I'm against the development of social networking but simply to say I'm in a minority.

I'll get one eventually though. When I'm bothered to.