Tips for how to socialize with NTs

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Hi guys I would like to share a few tips I've learned in how to deal and socialize with NTs. I would also like for you to share with me how you cope with them as well.
The best way I can describe the NT social community would be like riding a surf board. Think of NTs like an ocean wave and you as the surfer on a board. We Aspies have a tendency to to want to make sudden forceful entries or actions into our lives including our social lives. But unfortunately for us the NT social world does not work that way. You have to analyze your environment, get on the board and slowly merge with the wave and hope you stay on. If you take your board and forcefully barge into an incoming wave you will crash and pulled under.
This is what us Aspies have a tendency to do in the social world. We desperately want to relate to others so when we enter new social environments we may immediately start talking about our special interest without realizing that we have not earned the right to surf the social wave. NTs see us sometimes as obnoxious, selfish, and sometimes freaked out by us.

The first thing that may help you is to Not talk about your special interest unless somebody else mentions it first.
I have learned at an early age that special interest talk can be a social disaster.