I realized something tonight.....

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As I have mentioned, my oldest son is back home now. We went through three years where he didn't talk to me and hated me, but now things are ok and he's home. The baby is here off and on too. Tonight, when he was looking through his big pile of clothes he brought for something clean to wear to work and I was taking all the others to wash and fold and put away in his brother's room tomorrow, he was complaining about smelling bad at work. He said he works right next to his boss and his boss can smell him and vice versa. Now, he's showering tonight but he's worried his clothes will smell. They do construction. I looked at him like he was blowing everything out of proportion and I said exactly this, unfortunately "For the love of God honey, just tell him that your mother had a stomach bug and got behind on the laundry!

He's 24. He's been on his own for years, has a baby, as an ole lady who is now his ex ole lady. He's grown. Yet I was talking to him like he was in high school. Which I had done right before that when I gave him the toothbrush I bought him because he didn't have one and showed him where I put his toothpaste that he has to use.

This is what I realized. I am the mother on Everybody Loves Raymond. Yep! That would be me. Babying my grown kids, pushing the food on people, worrying about the couch getting dirty, all that. I mentioned that in there, when it hit me, and my oldest son and youngest daughter both said "Did you not already know that?"

God help me.

It's lovely to here that your son and you are back talking again.

You sound like a really great Mother.

Go order the Total Transformation program online from James Lehman. It restored our entire family. You will be so glad you did. Your children will grow up and you will be blessed if you follow his plan. Also, read Proverbs in the Word of God. You'll begin to feel so much freer and at peace.

My family is fine the way it is. I don't need some program. What exactly do you think I'm wanting to fix?

They are grown up, but I still do things for them and in my head they are still kids. They are very mature.

I'm not Christian any more, but I do appreciate the advice about Proverbs.

I have peace now that my son is talking to me again. That whole thing was because of his baby mama and some other drama. It's a long story, but my family is just great as it is now. What in the world about my post gave you the idea that there was something wrong with my family? I just said I noticed that I'm like that mother in Everybody Loves Raymond. The way she babies her grown sons and pushes food on everybody and worries about her couch getting dirty. What could I have possibly said in what I thought was just a funny little aside, that made you think I needed some kind of help with my family?