People Can Change

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Anyone who tries to tell you 'people can't change' or that 'you can't change someone', don't listen to them.

People can change. Being in a relationship with someone for many years will change both people. Your true nature will be stifled and little by little, you'll become someone different to whom you were. Some good, some bad.

But the thing is, no matter how hard someone tries to change their partner into what they want, it never goes that way. Their partner will change but it won't be in the way the other wants.

It's a bit like you've got a semi inflated balloon in your hands and you apply pressure to it, trying to squeeze it into a square shape. Your pressings will change it's shape but it's unlikely you're going to be able to make a square out of it no matter how you press it or for how long you try.

Nothing is worse than someone taking a free spirited, confident, happy individual and trying to turn them into something they want, killing the free spirit inside the other.

I'm slowly getting my true (Aspie and all) nature back. I haven't felt this me since I was a kid. I haven't felt this free and relaxed since I was a kid.

Solitude is truly bliss - where you can find your true self again.

People can change only if they really want to and have the courage and strength to do so. But you can't change people.

I've done a lot of that changing this year for the better. I feel more alive than I have the past 29 years. I wish that everybody could see it instead of just my friends and my coworkers.

Correction. As I said above, you can change people but not in the way you try to change them. They change as a long term result of being with the (unintentional) changer for a long time.