What are you to your parents after 18 then?

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Today a guy at work said, "my son is having his wisdom teeth pulled out today" then he added, "well, I wouldn't say 'son', he's 22, not a little boy." What's so wrong in calling your grown-up children 'son' or 'daughter'? So as soon as you reach 18 you're no longer a son or daughter to your parents? What are you to your parents then? A friend? A roomie? A grandparent?

It's not like he said "my little boy is having his wisdom teeth pulled out today". So I don't know why he corrected himself against the word 'son'. I mean, when you turn 18 your brother or sister doesn't stop being your brother or sister, do they? So same thing applies to your son or daughter.

Why do parents bang on about their kids age as soon as they pass 18? 'Son' and 'daughter' is a correct term to use and holds nothing against how old they are.

I agree with you that a child is always either a son or a daughter to their parents regardless of age.

I don't think he meant anything by it other than to point out that his son is an adult now in case you were imagining someone younger.

I've said that about my little sister, I dunno, saying "little sister" makes me think of her as a kid. "I say, little sister, but she's 35," I've found myself saying.

I've never heard anyone say something like that before. I'm still my parent's daughter at 45, and I'll see myself as being their daughter for always.

I've heard my parents refer to me as "my boy" as an adult which I think most would find more patronizing than being referred to as "my son". I get why my parents would see me that way. I don't have my sh!t together with life & am dependent & immature compared to my peers.

This is the first time I've ever heard of someone saying they don't see their son as their son or their daughter as their daughter once they are adults. They are their children, and they always will be, even when they're old. If they wanted, they could say "my adult son/daughter/children."

My parents say that me and my sisters will always be their babies, and that's what I've always read/heard about from other people, too.

I'm not sure about some language subtleties but "son" is still a "son", even if he's 80 and you're 100.
I found one of my friends saying "my child" about his 13yo daughter somehow inappropriate but if he said "my daughter" instead, I wouldn't mind at all.

Hey! I am still a child for them