Birth:children:Babys:Family, whats it all mean too you?

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Birth:children:Babys:Family, whats it all mean too you?
do you want them? and if so why?
do you not want them, and if not why?
how do you feel about them and wanting (or not) those things in your life?
why?

I don't want kids. Kids are overwhelming, and I have a hard enough time understanding adults let alone kids. I respect good parents. However, I don't think it's fair that people, society, and culture tries to tell me that I'm some sort of bizarre freak because I don't want kids. Hell, I'll probably end up not getting married. The thought of not having kids makes me feel relieved and peaceful.

Babies are disgusting, screach and scream loudly/incoherently and drive me insane. Mindless bathroom machines I call em. All I have is an idea of what a "good" family is like. I know if I made one, it would be though. Knowing myself however, I highly doubt it would be a realistic decision.

I'm not really into children. Heck knows I have problems with interacting with people my age, much less anyone younger. And being female, the pain I hear is involved... I have a low pain tolerance and there's 5 billion complications someone pregnant could have. .-.

For me, Children are like a great book with unwritten pages,
People have all that baggage which makes it hard for me to read and understand or relate too them.
Children when you know them from birth you get to watch them learn and grow and help them develop,
watching their lives grow into those pages you can relate too them and be that good friend for and too them.
I have been in a couple relationships in my life, both failed, my child means too me a stable and lasting family life.
I always wanted a family, always dreamed of it, my heart truly sank with the loss of my "last" relationship/mate.
but half of a life long desire and dream is better then none, now I have someone I can care for and about and help grow and learn.
I do not mind all the stinky diapers, the crying and whining and stuff, when you raise a child right its not so bad,
and they learn they can depend on you and trust and believe in you, they need that in their lives, and to feel wanted and loved.
In many ways I envied women, being able to feel a life grow inside them and then bring them wantonly into the world.
I just wish I had a stable mate/partner to share the experience of raising a family with, preferably the mother of my child, but life is just not always right or fair, thats just life, and its nice to know I no longer have to always be alone, sure its not the same as having a mate, but its still someone to share my life with, at least for a few good years, and then (hopefully) there would be grand children...............

I would make a family anyway, even if I would kinda suck at it. As long as I would never have to go near a dirty diaper. Nothing disgusts me more than human excrements.
Cause then, I would never be alone again

I'd LOVE to be a parent.
Whether I'm capable of being a parent is another matter.