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Jamesy
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07 Apr 2009, 6:24 pm

My mum likes blonde men (my mother has jet black hair and brown eyes). She likes my brother and my dad more than me becuase they have light hair and blue eyes. I on the other hand have brown hair (it can go blondish in the summer, but not really) and brown eyes. I don't really fit my mums ideal of a son in my opinion. I don't know what to do? I can't help it if darker haired girls like blonder haired males better than darker haired men. :( I think my mother also likes my younger bro quite a bit more than me. I just feel a bit left out thats all and like I might be a slight disspointment to my mum thats all.

It's just a bit hurtful to me thats all. It dosen't help either I have apsergers syndrome. I guess I could bleach my hair blonde? Maybe my mum might approve of me better then?



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07 Apr 2009, 6:45 pm

If your mother really loves you then she see no importance in the colour of your hair and eyes!
I think this is more about an inner feeling in you rather than the outer view for your mum. You will be the same even if you dye your hair blonde.
You might just be very uncertain of your own place in the family just because you are the one with AS (and the others not?)

Go and approach your mum and ask her "Do you love me less because I dont have light hair?"
Hopefully she respond: " Thats ridiculous! Of course not, what makes you feel like that?"


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07 Apr 2009, 10:06 pm

what is she a nazi ...?



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08 Apr 2009, 8:31 am

Maybe she loves you less because you're an Aspie, not because of your hair.



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08 Apr 2009, 9:10 am

Hi Jamesy---I truly believe (and I hope I am right here) that you are misreading your mother. I cannot imagine her loving you any less because of hair color and AS. I think you should try to not dwell on this favoritism thing and relax---because she should love you the same.


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08 Apr 2009, 10:18 am

I don't think she would love you less than anyone else. I'm sure she loves you just as much, after all, hair colour and AS should not make a parent love anyone less.


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08 Apr 2009, 11:09 am

glider18 wrote:
Hi Jamesy---I truly believe (and I hope I am right here) that you are misreading your mother. I cannot imagine her loving you any less because of hair color and AS. I think you should try to not dwell on this favoritism thing and relax---because she should love you the same.


I agree.

Has she ever come out and said exactly that to you? I would think it's a case of misreading the situation.



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08 Apr 2009, 1:00 pm

I don't think I am misreading that much into this. She always told me that she likes blonde men. My brother in her eyes is probably her ideal of a son and a man in general. I am probably not her perfect vision of a son. Just my opinion.



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08 Apr 2009, 1:03 pm

Just because she tells you that she has a preference for blonde men doesn't mean that she likes you less because you're not blonde!! !! It just means that she might not want to date you :lol: