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Do you believe in "the one"?
Poll ended at 27 Feb 2013, 7:16 pm
Yes 21%  21%  [ 3 ]
No 64%  64%  [ 9 ]
Am male/NT/want to see the result 14%  14%  [ 2 ]
Total votes : 14

Mitsuki
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24 Feb 2013, 7:16 pm

I wonder how other females with Aspergers view dating.......



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26 Feb 2013, 12:04 am

While I don't really believe in "the one," I do believe that it is possible for someone to find a SO that he/she is very compatible with. There is a possibility that more than one person would fit this requirement, but the chance that person can find multiple people that he/she is equally compatible with is quite rare. That's why some people believe in the existence of "the one" because they have met one person that was much more compatible with them than other people they have met. Otherwise, the concept of "the one" seems like a Hollywood created idea that is meant to pull in money/viewers. This tactic seems to have worked quite well.



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26 Feb 2013, 10:34 am

Einfari wrote:
While I don't really believe in "the one," I do believe that it is possible for someone to find a SO that he/she is very compatible with. There is a possibility that more than one person would fit this requirement, but the chance that person can find multiple people that he/she is equally compatible with is quite rare. That's why some people believe in the existence of "the one" because they have met one person that was much more compatible with them than other people they have met. Otherwise, the concept of "the one" seems like a Hollywood created idea that is meant to pull in money/viewers. This tactic seems to have worked quite well.


This absolutely sums it up.



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12 Mar 2013, 12:17 am

For some reason I could not vote...but yes, I am a 100% believer that there is THE ONE. Sometimes, we do make wrong choices though. :(



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15 Apr 2013, 7:26 pm

I don't believe nature would be so cruel as to put us on this planet and then only offer one viable option for mating. Also, I think humans live long lives and many change and grow considerably during their life span. Others not so much.

A long time ago I married a man I believed was my "one", but life taught me I was mistaken--mostly because he couldn't and wouldn't allow me to be myself.

Still, I know there are very few individuals I could even consider as friends (let alone lovers), and fewer of those I would even start to be compatible with for serious dating and more long term relationships.

I think there might be more than "one" solution out there, but the candidate pool is certainly very limited for any one of us. Perhaps finding love at all--even if it is temporary and imperfect--is an incredible precious thing.


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17 Apr 2013, 7:27 am

I've believed in the one and I"ll probably believe again. Not right now though. :?



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20 Apr 2013, 2:05 am

I think that the idea of 'soul mates' or 'the one' is one that exists predominately in our minds and very rarely in reality. If somebody makes us happy we'll probably think of them as the one but that's not to say we could never be happy with anyone else.


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20 Apr 2013, 1:47 pm

No. Used to, but life convinced me otherwise.

What I do think (on an esoteric level, and this is purely my point of view and your mileage may vary) is that we all have a kind of group of kindred souls that we recognize when we meet them. And it's highly likely that (if things go well) we'll find ourselves in a romantic/sexual relationship with someone of our 'tribe'. Doesn't mean there's only one possibility out there, though, because like pandorazmtbox says, that wouldn't be fair.


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21 Apr 2013, 12:06 pm

ThatRedHairedGrrl wrote:
What I do think (on an esoteric level, and this is purely my point of view and your mileage may vary) is that we all have a kind of group of kindred souls that we recognize when we meet them. And it's highly likely that (if things go well) we'll find ourselves in a romantic/sexual relationship with someone of our 'tribe'.


I believe this, too. I used to believe that there was this one person out there that I had to find, but but I changed over time to realize that there were maybe several possible mates that would have been good for me, if I hadn't been such an Aspie and not realized that they were interested and too shy to speak. Having said that, my husband is definitely a "one" that I wish I could have met many years ago.


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22 Apr 2013, 2:54 pm

hartzofspace wrote:
ThatRedHairedGrrl wrote:
What I do think (on an esoteric level, and this is purely my point of view and your mileage may vary) is that we all have a kind of group of kindred souls that we recognize when we meet them. And it's highly likely that (if things go well) we'll find ourselves in a romantic/sexual relationship with someone of our 'tribe'.


I believe this, too. I used to believe that there was this one person out there that I had to find, but but I changed over time to realize that there were maybe several possible mates that would have been good for me, if I hadn't been such an Aspie and not realized that they were interested and too shy to speak. Having said that, my husband is definitely a "one" that I wish I could have met many years ago.


I have almost always believed in the "kindred souls" concept, and interestingly everytime I cross paths with one of them they turn out to be at least borderline Aspie. Very fine with me!



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22 Apr 2013, 7:00 pm

PrncssAlay wrote:
hartzofspace wrote:
ThatRedHairedGrrl wrote:
What I do think (on an esoteric level, and this is purely my point of view and your mileage may vary) is that we all have a kind of group of kindred souls that we recognize when we meet them. And it's highly likely that (if things go well) we'll find ourselves in a romantic/sexual relationship with someone of our 'tribe'.


I believe this, too. I used to believe that there was this one person out there that I had to find, but but I changed over time to realize that there were maybe several possible mates that would have been good for me, if I hadn't been such an Aspie and not realized that they were interested and too shy to speak. Having said that, my husband is definitely a "one" that I wish I could have met many years ago.


I have almost always believed in the "kindred souls" concept, and interestingly everytime I cross paths with one of them they turn out to be at least borderline Aspie. Very fine with me!

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23 Apr 2013, 4:48 am

I believe you can have multiple true loves in your life (at different times, of course)



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02 May 2013, 11:43 pm

I agree about kindred spirits. :)

But "the one... " lol no.