negitive social reactions due to hair color?

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I don't know where the stereotypes about hair color came from I know you said you like it darker anyway (your hair), but I just wanted to say I think red hair is gorgeous too. I dated a guy with red hair, my friend is dating one now. Lots of guys like girls with red hair. My mom has red hair. I dye mine lots of reddish colors

hmm, Ive never heard long hair was threatening before. I think I seem more threatning with shorter hair. I do feel more feminine/sexy with longer hair. hmm. I'll have to think about that one.

For all the comments about Guys liking redheads. That is alot of my problem. I am married, and very happily. there is only one man in my life who I allow to have an opinion of me sexualy, and that is my husband. All these guys who are intregied by me, and my red hair creep me out. they would never notice me if I wasnt some sort of walking fetish. And most of them are not nice. Ive even been treated poorly by some because they dated redheads, and in their minds, I was no better then their psycho Ex. not fun attention. also, I dont know if any of the non redheads have this problem..but People are constantly trying to touch my head. It drives me crazy and freaks me out. Also all my life people would talk to eachother about my hair as If I wasnt even there, Its like If somone was talking about a birthmark of yours as if you werent even there..."oh my gosh, did you see the size of it? how did she get it that color? do you think the rumors are true?"

So a lifetime of a constant combination of unwanted psudo/sexual advances and comments by men (of all ages). Strangers trying to pet me, and People talking about it like it was its own seprate entity, I am ready to be rid of it. oh, and not to mention the racist remarks I have gotten for being a redhead.

I dont get it. Its just hair. Its not that big of a deal. Why should my hair cause such a response just because its a different color? and as far as the jellousy argument. that just doesnt hold up anymore. anyone who wants to be a redhead nowdays can get a box of dye and experience it for themselves. honestly I'm just getting old. I need a change. I like dark hair.

thanks for all the advice. I hope this thread keeps going as I find this an interesting topic.

I found a recipie for a black coffee rinse on the internet. I'm going to try that before I hit the box dye. I'll post up my progress. red hair is nutoriously difficult to die, so the coffee rinse might not work, but its supposed to bring life and shine back to your hair. Wish me luck! (I'm really hoping I dont have to go to a salon for this)

I might even post before/after pics, If I'm feeling balzy. :)

I'm a natural redhead, and I love it.

Why on earth would you want to be like everyone else?

I'm not sure why you said you can't get rid of the red. My mother has red hair and I have auburn. I've seen it died blond before with no problem.

As to whether you should or shouldn't, I wouldn't do it for the bullies sake, but if having a different color would please you, then go for it.

I have red hair. Most people assume that, because I am red headed, I'm hot tempered, intelligent and independent.

I AM hot tempered, intelligent and independent.

I dyed it blonde once and they assumed that I was dumb as a post, an easy lay, and needed to be taken care of.

You'd think that hair related stereotypes would be less common with the prevalence of dyed hair nowadays.

I find it intellectually curious but it doesn't bother me.

Your hair sounds beautiful. Those comments sound like pure and simple jealousy.

Due to my naturally blonde hair and blue eyes, I've been called names like "Aryan" and "Nazi". Since my hair is a darker shade of blonde I've also been referred to as a "dirty blonde", a double meaning alluding not only to the shade of color but also to blonde women's supposed promiscuity.

One time my brother, our mom and I were all riding in the car and at a stoplight, a man made fun of the fact that all three of us are blonde. One of my sisters is naturally blonde as well, but she's been dyeing her hair brunette (and straightening it) for years. She's never explained why, but our mom theorizes that it's just another way for her to try to copy and compete with our other sister, who is naturally a straight-haired brunette.

Yeah, I don't get where people get off thinking they can just touch a total stranger -- like you having people want to touch your hair. I hate having people touch mine; fortunately in my experience people don't touch my hair when they ask how I get my color (just lucky!). It's like when a woman gets pregnant and suddenly her belly is public property. WTF? My brother would get really irate at strangers who would touch his wife's belly, and my brother is one of the most even-tempered, laid-back people I know. I think it I were ever to get pregnant, I reach out and grab the offender's belly right back and say, "How do you like it?" Actually, I dislike being touched in general.

I once commented on a forum that a friend of mine has "red hair and the temper to match" and got jumped all over by a redhead for saying so. (She actually happened to have a vile temper herself, but that's another story.) Since then, I've tried to avoid stereotyping by hair color just as I would by any other cosmetic difference. I mean, I know not all redheads have bad tempers, just like I know not all blondes are dumb, or all brunettes bitchy, but that one time showed me how offensive it could be to make a statement like that. (I hate it when people say to me, "Wow, I thought you'd be a total b***h, but you're really not." Yeah, my sable hair does not make me a b***h, or a tease...although I do use it to seem extra sultry sometimes! (My husband loves it.)

Well, I'm a redhead (dark auburn or dark copper blonde, hazel eyes and pale olive skin) and I never had any negative adventure because of it. Or maybe I didn't notice, I'm autistic

Now I'm dyed black with red stripes and people like it. My hair is straight, thick, shiny, in good condition, so people are more jealous than rude. I'm proud of my hair.

Maybe if you don't like your hair, people notice it and laugh? If you like it, they know that laughing and being rude is pointless?
Some people tried to laugh at my "plastic" hair, like a wig but without any reaction, so they gave up and told me they'd like to have the same hair.

I have natural dark auburn hair, hazel eyes, and pale skin. I never dyed my hair before. And I'm afraid to bleach my hair because it might turn out orange. I would also have to bleach my eyebrows because they're dark brown and that would look trashy with bleached hair.

OMG! " I think it I were ever to get pregnant, I reach out and grab the offender's belly right back and say, "How do you like it?" that made me laugh so hard!. Ive never had problems with people trying to touch my pregnant stomach (prolly because I was busy sending out the touch me and die vibes). but I have people always trying to touch my hair..its like magnetic or something. especialy men and older women. I'm not a dog, I dont want to be pet, even if you think I'm cute. As far as the temper to match goes, yea. I have a temper. " do the curtians match the carpet?" sort of comments will definatly set off my "firey temper". (It probably doesnt help any that I'm almost 6 feet tall and mostly lithuanian) I get alot of attention.

even if its positive attention. I get tired of hearing, "who does your hair!? thats such a pretty color!, i always wanted to be a redhead" everytime I leave the house. I'd like to return the comments with "OMG! your wearing shoes? who does your feet? I always wanted to have feet that size!". but I dont, because I am nice, and I know that they are just trying to give me a compliment. To me, Its the same thing. I was born looking like I do. and commenting on how I look, while telling me how much you hate how you look, just creeps me out.