Nobody believes I have Aspergers?

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If the book is good and as cheap as anywhere else, why would you care?

I have a job and make money out of it, but you bet I get happy when I hep someone. Does that disqulify my help?

To the OP, as I said before, I truly think you should pursue further evaluations. Find out for sure if you have Asperger's, depression, bipolar disorder...

... in my opinion, a forum is a great place to share concerns, to seek comfort in problems other people are familiar with etc. NOT to get a diagnosis.

What I like in this forum is the fact that you can come despite being on the spectrum or not, but that doesn't mean people can tell what you have better than your husband and/or psychiatrist.

Peace.

I don't know everyone on the internet personally, so it would be stupid to trust everyone. And I do not have time to research every link I see. I do not put my naked pictures on the internet, I do not give my name and adress to anyone who asks. I have a healthy scepticism. ..but like I said "I'm sorry".

I find it really difficult to talk about Asperger's with people, like when I meet someone new (I'm single). It took 21 years to figure out that I have Asperger's, doctors had varying opinions, teachers in school never clued in (just that I had defiant behavior, etc).

I just find everyone with Asperger's is different, we don't have the same quirks or symptoms. People will say "Oh I never would have guessed" or "You can't tell" or "You don't look like it". What is someone with Asperger's supposed to look like? Or they always know someone else, usually a child, with Asperger's and compare me to them... I am me... not them.

AspieKelly, I just watched some video clips of news shows featuring people with Aspergers. Every single person looked like they were "off" and had something wrong with them. I mean absolutely NO offense whatsoever towards these people, but come on ... these are the people the general public are seeing when Aspergers and autism is mentioned, and I see this same thing playing out over and over again.

This annoys the heck out of me. One news show interviewed a guy whose lower button on his shirt was undone and gaping open. Despite their makeup and wardrobe people who are there to correct things like this, they put that man in front of the camera with his disheveled shirt, framing how their audience should view people on the spectrum. This is shameful media stage setting at its worst.

No wonder my mother refuses to accept that I have Aspergers. Her understanding of an autism spectrum disorder has been skewed by popular media.

Carla

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LovesMoose,
I can understand what you're saying now. I also think some people picture everyone on the spectrum to be nonverbal and in a wheelchair when you even mention autism spectrum... There are just so many different degrees of this.

The other question I get is if I am like "Sheldon Cooper" on Big Bang Theory... LOL

I've mentioned a couple of times now that I'm launching a blog soon on my journey as an older woman with Aspergers. The biggest challenge I'm feeling right now (and probably the main reason I keep delaying the start date) is, how do I fairly represent this segment of the Aspergers community? What will people think when they learn I'm self-diagnosed? What about when they see my photos and compare them with other people they've met who are on the spectrum? I don't fit the stereotype of someone with Aspergers. But wait until you see some of my childhood photos side by side with photos of me now. I've come a long, long way since then in terms of my outward display of autism.

Carla

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Yes I feel many professionals would miss the signs that Aspie women have. I get the same, people not believing I have it, including professionals. Many women can hide it better. I have some of the symptoms more mildly.

YES! Most people don't realize an Aspie can seem mostly normal. We need more positive exposure so the public understands that we are not sore thumbs, but we need a little special consideration sometimes.