Do AS women have trouble climaxing?

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I do and it doesn't matter how comfortable I am with the guy either. I've never had an orgasm during sex. On my antidepressants or off them, doesn't matter.

I think antidepressents must have a HUGE effect. If I am masturbating, if I want to, I can come in about 30 seconds. No kidding. Generally that kind of sucks so I try to make it last longer. It takes a lot longer with my husband, but he has a hard time pushing the buttons in the exact right order so to speak. I was on Pristiq for a while... and while I was on it... couldn't finish. No matter what. So I went from 30 seconds to utter blue ball frustration. Horrid.

Well, I don't know any other aspie women. For me it's pretty easy. Though I started ... well, masturbating since I was 3, so I always know how to get it every time. You really need to relax and get your mood into whatever that turn you on (might not be sex itself). Focus on erotic thoughts and forget other unrelated stuff. I know aspies tend to have a busy mind and are easily distracted. Keep practicing focusing on sex and erotic stuff, and nothing else. Immerse into your fantasies and you'll get there in no time.

*In my personal opinion multiple orgasm is biological, it's older women's bodies' attempt to get pregnant. Not totally related to sex experience. (Each climax is weaker than the previous one anyway, so if you got a good single orgasm you're not missing out much at all.)

I think most women can climax. Taking a sex education class and understanding the sexual responses of both genders are important, especially because women tend to take longer to become sexually aroused.

Secondly, having a partner who wants, is willing to, and can pleasure his (or in some cases, her) woman and who is willing to explore different positions makes a humongous difference. Still a woman who self-pleasures herself can also explore her orgasmic ability.

Ah, I've been masterbating since I was 3 years old and am excellent at getting the orgasm. So I think I would do sex OK, as long as I've got a man that I want.

Ladies who didn't start so young, don't despair! I didn't figure it out till I was 25. But then once I did it once I was like a juggernaut, unstoppable...lol...

Don't worry, I kind of worry myself knowing I've been doing that sort of thing ever since I was 3 years old.

Multiple orgasms have nothing to do with "older women's bodies' attempt[ing] to get pregnant." What a ridiculous statement full of ignorance. Young women have multiple orgasms too (and without the intent of becoming pregnant).

More likely, varied stimulation -- penile or otherwise -- as well as pressure, angle of the pressure, duration, and the right partner are what bring on multiple orgasms, and the orgasms can be clitoral, vaginal and anal. Spraying from the Bartholin glands also is an orgasmic manifestation.

And yes, I am one of those lucky women who has experienced multiple orgasms so can speak with some authority.

A common misconception is that women should climax while having sex. A large percentage of women fail to have an orgasm during sex, but there is not necessarily anything wrong with that. It all lies in the anatomy of a woman. I am providing a link to a documentary that explains it pretty well. I was amazed and relieved to find that there was nothing wrong with me because I can rarely climax during intercourse. http://wmoo.blogspot.com/2011/01/clitor ... -2003.html

I think it's easier for me than the average woman, but that's probably because I'm more selfish than them: only when & how I want it, and my mind is on enjoying myself. I refuse to be self-conscious in bed. So much of it comes down to thought and fantasy - for me this is much more important than the mechanical stuff. When I was on antidepressants, though, I had no interest in sex at all (this is also true at certain times of the month as well as early in the morning).

The multiple orgasm thing - yeah, I don't really think so. The most I ever had was when I was 17. Maybe a way for nature to encourage women of all ages to get busy, but I don't get the "older" thing. Or is there some kind of evidence they get more common with age?

Eh, if you were like me, I wouldn't worry too much about starting so young. I started not too far behind you at age 4. I wasn't molested by boys, didn't know about sex, and nothing happened to me worthy of anything shame-heavy religious people could dream up. I was cold, I put my hands down there, liked the way it felt, so I kept going, and you all can figure out the rest. So I basically discovered the magic of orgasm purely by accident. You should carry no shame for being the same (assuming you are).

Can you experience orgasm while having sex with the person with whom you are no longer in love???????????

Sure.

Orgasming is a physiological reaction to certain pleasurable stimuli/stimulation. It is the culmination and the release of sexual tension once the sexual organs (including the brain) have gone beyond the excitement and plateau phases.

I have a lot of orgasms. More during sex than any other time. But then again, I have a ridiculously high sex drive and all signs indicate that I have abnormally high testosterone for a female so that may have something to do with it.

Gosh I hope nobody in my real life finds my username on this site.

Yes I have this problem too.

I think that this is my problem, honestly. I can't stop day dreaming...ever.