Do/Did you get along with your mother?

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We rarely get along. I always end up feeling frustrated when I talk to her.

No, not really, I find myself having to act very fake around her (which I'm not good at, so that creates even more tension).

However, I was very close to my paternal grandmother. I loved her so much... if she hadn't been in my life, I really don't think I'd know how to love anything or anyone. I'd have no real capacity for love had it not been for her.

Unfortunately she died 10 years ago .

I get along with my mom very well. I have her to thank for discoving I had AS and that she helped get where I am today. Even though I'm away at college, I still call her every day to talk. She helps me through things. However, we do have our bad days.

I'm a guy, and I think that in all honesty, I don't get along with her too well. She's actually rather stereotypical NT, very chatty and gregarious, and values looking and acting normal. Always complained that I never went out to parties to socialize, that I had so few friends, that I lacked street smarts (earlier, I'm not quite so naive anymore, no thanks to her...), that I always made so many silly minor mistakes. She's also very whiny and overly emotional, being very prone to dramatics, guilt-tripping, and screaming. To top it all off, she's practically helpless with things that seem so easy to me, like reading a map or fixing the reception of the TV, and always came running to me for help with something. Extremely irrational person. Pissed me off to no end. Oh yeah, forgot to mention that she does not support my self-diagnosis of AS, she just thinks that if only I went out more and met more girls, then everything would be fine.

It's no wonder I want to date guys... I consider her to be a very weak person, and I cringe at the thought of having a girlfriend who acted like that. Interestingly, most of the acquaintances I have are girls, and they are all very chatty and gregarious too. Suffice it to say, I don't have any attraction to them, but they are very easy to attract for acquaintance purposes, since they always seem to like my self-deprecating humor and light teasing. (I think they might consider it like flirting or something but I do it for platonic reasons, since I'm just not attracted to that kind of person )

I used to have issues with my mother, i felt that she ignored me and didn't care about me, i was terribly depressed (i think) for most of my childhood and blamed her for this as she didn't notice. Eventually i realised that this was merely a product of my warped perception, that she didn't know anything was wrong with me as i refused to trust or talk to her.

Now we get on well, she has always been the peacemaker in our family and is very understanding of my AS and everything associated with it. I would she knows that even if i don't say it, that i care about her and appreciate all she's done, and continues to do (goodness, that's a cliche and a half).

My Mom and I are best friends. I hate to think where I'd be today if it wasn't for her.

Superficially and intermittantly.

There are times that I feel it is ok, but then she goes and ruins it by blaming me for my AS traits, saying that I should be able to 100% control them etc.... I am sure that she feels it is me that ruins things not her so it is a no win situation.

When it is good, it is pretty much ok though, but feels superficial because it is ok on the surface, but deep down I know that she resents how I am sometimes. I think she feels "above" producing a dauhter such as myself". She is one of those people who will not even TRY to understand something she finds difficult.

I absolutely HATE her!! When I was a kid I would pray that my parents would get divorced so that I could live with my dad. I haven't spoken to her in over 4-1/2 years. She was always mean and abusive with me, but when she started doing it to my kids I had to get away from her. These have been the best 4-1/2 years of my life. As horrible as it sounds, if she dropped dead tomorrow I wouldn't feel any sadness. I was never good enough for her. I got straight A's, never drank, smoke, or did drugs. I didn't have sex until I was 20. My life just didn't go as she had planned it for me. My brother could do no wrong even though he was always in trouble. I hate her so much for ruining my life and my childhood.

My mom is teh only NT i wouldn't kill apart from my stepdad and brother...and nephew.

It's time to get the violin out:

I never knew my mum. The only time it bothers me is when I see all the nice supportive mothers on tv, even though I know it's all scripted.

I can't stand mine..we have NEVER gotten along. She's off in her own self-absorbed world and could care less. She ruined my life when I was a child because it was MY FAULT (yeah right) I was born. plus I think she is even worse communicator than I am. My grandpa was my everything..mom, dad, siblings, best friend. I think he might of been kinda Aspie come to think of it. Anyway, when he died in 2000, was last time I spoke to her and could care less if she dropped dead.

It's seems dumb and pointless to have a Women's Forum when men post here liberally. It just seems disrespectful to me, even bullying, like "Hey I'm a guy and I'm posting in the Women's Forum, HA! Screw you, you b*tches!!"

Sorry if that offends people, but I needed to vent that. I may be the only one, but I feel I need to state that I am NOT comfortable with this.

Anyhow, I don't really get along with my mom. We can be friendly, but we're not close. We've had a tense relationship all my life. I never recall a time in my life where was I wasn't alienated from her. I wasn't the daughter she wanted, and if she could've sent me back to the factory for a replacement, she would have. That's pretty much the whole story.

I feel the same way, Cade. There are things I would like to discuss in this forum, but every time I visit here, there are so many posts from guys, that I might as well be in the General or Random discussion forums. I really wish it weren't like this.

How about simply abolishing the Women's Discussion forum then? It seems the most sensible solution to me. You can't ban male members from reading or contributing, so maybe that would be the best thing to do?

No, we don't along. She has a lot of issues... One of her big complaints about me (there is a lot) is that I don't think like a woman. She is terribly offended that I have the brain I do and that I "think like a man" and so forth.