Women: Do You Mark Your Territory?

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Makes sense if you stay there often to have a drawer or leave a holdall with toiletries, spare socks & undies, meds, phone charger etc. But I'd always ask or wait for him to ask, not just do it. And surely by the time you're staying there often enough to need it, you should be comfy enough to ask, no?

Part of it is kind of instinctive - I take no issue with that part.
But when they do it knowingly in order to keep others away - that is what I get pissed off at them for - I don't think that is healthy.

I do leave stuff at his house, but it's not a deliberate thing. Just as, right now, I'm typing this message at my house with one of his shirts slung over the back of my chair and at least four pairs of his underwear in my laundry bag.

I've never done that, it wouldn't occur to me to do so, and finding such items in a guy's home would mean nothing to me. It could be theirs, a female relatives, or something that was left there long ago.

This never would have crossed my mind. Do people actually do that??

I'm now married to the only boyfriend I've ever had, but I never even though to do anything like that while we were dating.

That sounds creepy and a little gross... of course, if a man did the same thing at a woman's house it would be so very wrong.

I can honestly say I have never left anything of mine at my ex-boyfriend's house, nor do I intend to do so if I decide to get back into the dating scene.

Most likely.

For someone used to feeling unwanted, someone acting outright possessive of them is gonna be pretty appealing, at least for a while. Which, I guess, is part of why you see people putting up with sh***y controlling manipulative partners.

I could see myself ending up like that. I have ended up like that.

Given how easy it would be for me to be controlled by a woman, I count myself very lucky to be with one who has no interest in that.

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OKV37xNh07U[/youtube]I always thought women marked their territorys like cats do. The leaving clothes thing? I always thought of it as forgetting something unintentionally thats all, but thats just me its rather silly to think of leaving things behind as marking terretory, people just tend to forget things goodness.

I think that only feeling the "nice" feeling of having an insecure partner blinds you to what is truly in front of you. What people should be seeing is the insecurity and possessiveness of their partner. I've seen this scenario numerous times.

On the other side of things insecure isn't a particularly positive thing to feel. There in effect one's insecurity making another feel good is like finding pleasure in someone else's pain.

We do. We rub our scent all over you so the others stay away.

That is hilarious. It probably wasn't all that funny at the time. I wouldn't be impressed if it was my leg getting peed on, I wouldn't be mad though. But so help me, I laughed. Hopefully you and your girlfriend/partner can do the same. Dogs do tend to be good judges of character.

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I wouldn't leave things at my partners house with the intention of doing that. It seems silly to me. If you're with someone then that's marking your territory isn't it, because you wouldn't be with them if you didn't want to be?

The only time I'd do something like that would be if I asked first or the idea was suggested to me. Maybe if there was another person getting too familiar with the person of your affection, perhaps go ad put your arm around your partner or something then. I think it's a little possessive. If you feel the need to make everyone aware of your relationship, aren't you implying that you don't trust your partner to be monogamous or loyal?

..ohhh oh my..is there any hissing involved if another women encroaches on the scented territory?

Who_Am_I, I think I just peed on all my own furniture! LOL!

Original Poster: it freaks me out to leave something behind, ever, no matter what the context (I fret when I leave things at my mom's house, even). It also freaks me out when anyone leaves their possessions in my space. I instantly notice them (there's like an "intruder alert" that goes off in my head) and have to set them aside in a zone for "just visiting". I know, I'm weird.

I've often thought that any claim you had to stake so very, very hard would not be worth having.

Indeed.