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If you were dating someone the same sex, whether you are male or female, then it would be unfair for one person to have to work to support someone else, if both partners health and ability to work are equal, and so it should also be when a woman and man are together. That doesn't mean it is an absolute rule though, and there may be times and circumstances where one of the couple are, or need to be off work. This should not automatically mean that the two people can not be together as a couple, and it may be that the relationship starts off with one person employed and the other not. If this is a barrier or becomes a barrier to two people being together in a relationship, then that is just how it is. I don't think there should be a bias for either gender to be the one who thinks its OK to not be employed. When children are involved however, there may well be a period of time when the woman is more likely to take time off work. I don't consider this a gender bias, and the likelihood of it being the woman who takes longer off work is not going to change. In saying that however, if the couple decide that the male will end up taking longer off work to raise children, then that should be equally acceptable, if the couple agree that works best for them.

Being female you are lucky. Guys don't care near as much if a woman isn't working than women do with guys. Same with society at large, a woman can be very lazy/ignorant/unwilling to get schooling and she won't get near as much flack from society as men.

I'm afraid to tell someone about my life as little as five years ago. They would wonder what was wrong with me that I didn't learn certain things in the process of growing up.

A lot of men don't really care about these things. But if it bothers you, you can take some classes, or get a part time job, or start a small hobby business.

Anxiety/ASD can indeed affect our lifestyle.

I don't drive either. I took a test several years back to determine if I would be a safe driver. I have the cognitive ability to learn the task of driving, but my anxiety affects my reaction time in times of pressure, and making the wrong decision leads to life and death.

I also live with my parents, and while I'm making strides towards independence, there are many areas that I'm immature and not independent.

I've been worried about guys seeing me as a child who never grew up and wanting nothing to do with me.

But there is someone who came along who seems mutually interested, so there is hope.

Not everyone drives a car. Some choose not to for environmental reasons. Some can't afford it. Some have medical exclusions. Some locations have heavy traffic. Some don't want to drive.

Some cities are have better public transportation than others

Plenty of applicants are on government benefits and they are married

I know how you feel.

When I lived with my parents I had everything spoonfed to me they managed me income and bills. They took me to and from work if they could I hardly took public transport. I even had my clothes picked out as usually when I used to pick my own clothes the colours or design mismatched or looked stupid.

They also did all my washing and ironing and when they went on holiday I was 20 they arranged for me to stay at my aunts for the time they were on holiday.

It was quite embarrassing more so when me and my partner moved in together though we both for a year lived at my parents but at the time me and my partner you could tell we were worlds apart in terms of self sufficiency. I didn't know how to cook anything complex even rice and chicken I struggled nor did I know how to tidy up my bedroom or iron my clothes or use a washing machine. My partner was taught from 13 years old how to iron his clothes, the importance of time management and money management could use public transport quite well. When we moved in I won't lie I was ashamed because he works a much harder physically and mentally than mine and he would come in make tea do the dishes and do an hour or 2 of housework while i sat there watching and doing nothing.

It was only a matter of time till his seizures came back from the physical stress and I was forced to learn how to do my share and learn how money works better as within 6 months I racked up quite a large amount of debt we would be sunk if it wasn't for the fact that my partners wage is easily double what I get and that's base wage it's way more with overtime and such.

Now I'm paying back into the relationship as my partner has been ill with mental health so I been doing more of the housework but he's already pushing it back to what it was i think someone can to TOO self sufficient