Do you want to have children?

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Yes i have been wanting to have children very bad its something that if i had then i would be very happy knowing i could be a mother
I have wanted to adopted and have one of my own as well. Adopting is something i really want to do because i want to take in a child who may not believe thell have a family.
like a older kid.

I have wanted kids since I was five and I have one now. I love being a mother. I would like to have another one but that isn't an option right now. if it happens, it will. If not, at least I have one.

Absolutely not. I never have and I never will. If I listed my reasons, we'd be here all day. It is very important to me.

This.

I do want one kid, but I'm waiting until I'm 35 or 36 to have him or her. I want to finish undergrad and grad school, become a professor, do some travelling, and get married before getting pregnant. Some people think it's selfish, but I want to live my life before settling down with a husband and a kid. I really don't have a preference for sex, but I do want to find out before the birth when that time comes, because I don't like surprises.

I have never wanted to have children. I never even liked baby dolls when I was small. Infants tend to weird me out rather than entrance me (going by how most women react in delight to any spare baby they see, my total lack of response/mild aversion is clearly not the norm for my gender).

This doesn't bother me at all, personally.

I never wanted kids, but just felt it was something I would hav to do when I got to that stage in my life. When I was in college, I realized I had a choice. 12 years after college and I'm happy without them. I've been told I was selfish for not wanting them, and I just got so sick of that and hearing the 'wait until you hav kids' mantra that I started telling coworkers I'm unable to hav kids. With my different issues, its actually very possible that I can't. And I would be happy with that. As I get older, I increasingly want to care for animals though.

It seems like people want everyone to have kids or you are "selfish" but yet whenever we hear about misbehaving kids and parents doing nothing about it or hear about child abuse on the media, people go batshit over it saying how some people should never have kids bla bla bla. They should just make up their minds and quit saying people are selfish for not wanting to have kids because think of parents out there who should have never had kids and they are horrible parents because they are child abusers or put their lives first before their child, etc. Because who knows, you could be one of those people who is smart enough to not have children and they wouldn't even know it because you could be one of those parents. I bet all those parents out there who do child abuse or do parenting other people don't agree with, I bet they would have been the ones to tell them they are selfish for not wanting to have kids if they said they didn't want any. People just can't seem to make up their minds.

I think you highlight a very good point actually. And I completely agree with you on those aspects.

I want to have kids eventually, but I often consider having a surrogate because the entire act of making a child sort of disgusts me.

If I ever fall in love, that might change.

i think with child abuse and people who are horrendous parents, then there's a problem and someone from the outside needs to protect the ones who are being harmed. but if i'm going about my life and not hurting anyone including myself, then who has any right to judge me for these personal choices? most people seem so caught up in what other people are doing and constantly judging others as wrong, i even wonder how NTs manage to have any friends or relationships at all when they are so hypercritical of everyone. But maybe that's just the people i've been around.

I have a baby and I am hoping to try for another this summer.

I think I might like 1 but am not sure I would be a good parent, im only in my early 20s so still have time on my side to decide.

One of my Irish grannies has told me not to "Go on the pill love... and STAY ON IT!"
The other "you will change your mind when you are older".

Me "if I have none that means you wont end up minding them and can enjoy your retirement after working hard all your life" Mum: "aye don't bother".

No! I hate it when babies scream and then I would have one always around me. I also think I wouldn´t be a good mother because I am very unsure how to deal with kids.

Yes, motherhood has always been very important to me. I have two children; a five year old son and 20 month old daughter. I don't want to have any more children biologically, but my husband and I might adopt an older child when our kids are older.

The intensity of my kids is often overwhelming and I could never handle being a stay-at-home mom, but I have a very supportive and caring husband. They are wonderful kids and definitely the best part of my life. The first time I've ever felt that there's a place where I belong.

I would love to become a mother someday after I marry. I hope I will be good at it and will definitely read up on the subject (though I heard that doesn't help, haha).