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Hi all

I am knew to this forum but I have been reading a lot on it. I am currently investigating if I have asperger. There is a big chance I have it but I am not sure. I feel pretty lonely on this road and that's why I have registered myself here.

I have OCD almost all my life , along with general anxiety disorder and I am highly sensitive. I hate changes too. I used to have social phobia but after medication that is reduced , but only in certain surroundings. I have a job and I am married and I am a woman of over 30 years old. But I have been trouble "surviving" since a very young child .

Anyways this is something in short

Would you mind it if a man answers?

Welcome to the Forum. There's so many people here who are undergoing a similar journey to yours.

You are, definitely, not alone.

no i dont mind at all. i am happy someone answers. Because I really need some advice and support. i feel a little bit alone in all of this.

I know almost for sure that I have Aspergers but I am too afraid to get a diagnosis. afraid that they will say "you do have empathy because you are a health care professional" or something like that. but i know from my childhood till now that i struggle with lots of things. And that i have coped by learning and copying, so it seems to the world that i have it all covered. but inside i feel terrible..

It's absolutely wrong to say people with Asperger's/autism lack empathy. It's a ridiculous stereotype.

Perhaps, the disorder lies in the expression of empathy at any given moment. That happens to me sometimes.

I would not be able to come up with the empathetic words at the moment when the person needs them---but, later on, upon reflection, when I'm out of the "social sphere," so to speak, I would be able to come up with the empathetic words.

You need to find a clinicion that understands how Aspergers presents in adult women which can be difficult.

There is emotional or affective empathy which is the ability to feel others emotions. Aspies can be higher then average to the be the point of bieng stressed or overwhelmed. Then there is cognitive empathy which is the ability to understand others perspective on things. This is where it is said autistics lack. That does not mean autistics have no ability but less.

Sensory differences are usually present in either more or less or just different then typical levels of sensitivities to touch, sight, noise, taste etc. in people on the Autism Spectrum. Since you have been this way your entire life you might not recognize you are not typical in this regard or how much these may be stressing you.

Feel free to ask questions no matter how "stupid" or "embarrassing" they may seem.

Thank you for your kind response. I feel pretty much alone in all of this. I will go to the doctors on next week to ask for a referral. I hope she will believe me and give me one..