A question for any lesbians out there

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Ill start by apologising for starting a topic in this section. I realize this is the Women's Discussion section, but I thought this question would get more replies here.
Im sure everyone knows the stereotype of lesbians(Im allowed to say that word even though Im male, right? lol) being man haters. Im just curious as to how many lesbians actually fit that stereotype. If you do, may I enquire as to why?
I chose other so that I can see the results and avoid skewing them

Well, I myself am not a lesbian, but my sister is, and though she's not fond of many males (I can't blame her based on the abuse she suffered as a child), she doesn't hate them. I doubt many lesbians would hate males.

Do you think the abuse she suffered as a child resulted in her becoming a lesbian? Or do you think she would have ended up that way regardless?

regardless of what?

I was molested and raped by men and I am not a lesbian. Being heterosexual or homosexual isn't because of your nurture, it's nature.

I would rather think you would go off sex altogether, frankly, than go after something that did not attract you.
Merle

I strongly believe this to be true in most cases. However, ive had quite a few gay friends throughout my life due to the fact that they tend to not be as much of dicks and more excepting then most other people from my experiences anyways... But with a couple of them, it was definately a choice to be homosexual.

That's TOTAL BullSH*T!

People don't CHOOSE to be gay, they just are. It would be like me CHOOSING to be straight. I would be uncomfortable in the extreme. You can't feign sexual interest or pleasure if you don't actually feel it (I mean to yourself, not to someone else).

Bisexuals feel they have a choice of which gender, but not gay people.

And NO, homosexuality is not based on prior abuse. If that were the case there would be FAR more queers out there!

Stupid myths.

Actually, genetics, childhood environment, adolescent experience, peer pressure, role models, and personal choice may all play a factor, and in varying proportions depending on the individual.

Of course, nobody really knows, so anyone's guess is as good (or bad) as mine.

The only times I can think of people 'choosing' to be gay are when people who are really bisexuals decide to limit themselves to one gender. Otherwise I think it's pretty much BS, though by all means I could be incorrect.

In terms of pure sexuality I am a lesbian, as I am not physically attracted to men, only to women. However, I am emotionally and psychologically attracted to men. I prefer the company of men to women; in fact I am marrying one, which has led to a physical relationship. I'm not sure you should count my opinion then because of all that confusingness, but I'm gonna go ahead and say I'm a lesbian who thinks dudes are awesome.

As someone who spends most of their social time surrounded by gay men, I know that every single one I have asked when they first realised they were gay has said it was when they were kids.

Doesn't sound like nurture to me, although I can't speak for lesbians.

I have known many lesbians who also have relationships of various types with men so it just goes to prove that 'labels' are pretty worthless in general and especially worthless with respect to human sexuality and gender roles.
I also have known hundreds of men who 'decided' that they preferred to live a 'gay' lifestyle well into their forties after decades of hetero living. Labels and generalities are mostly for those in society who are afraid of living a full lifetime of experiences.

I also know hundreds of gay men who have 'decided' to leave their hetero wives and g/fs because they don't feel the constraint of society anymore and they feel that they would be accepted now.

The majority (in my experience) known they were gay or at least bi since they were young. Although I do repect not all gays may be like this! Individuality rocks! And I don't know re lesbians though, as this may be different, but I do know that large amounts of the male gay community hates the idea that people think that being gay is a lifestyle choice , but believe instead that it is indeed genetic.

Check out any pro gay website to confirm!

Simply speaking on the topic of my view of men...

NO! Of course I don't hate them! Most of my (few) friends are guys; I fit right in, since I am what I would label a 'soft butch'.

Do I want a relationship with a boy? No. Do I hate them? NO!

I think realizing about your general sexual preferences and acting upon those realizations usually comes years apart in time unless by coincidence one can act out their wishes earlier. Sometimes it's an on and off thing depending on circumstances and outrifht luck.

I have an unhealthy attitude towards males in general, and have since I was a little girl.

This may sound idiotic but It may have something to do with how I was treated in a past life.

I am straight but I voted 'other' because I wanted to see the results of the poll. I hope that's okay.