Whats offending to you with AS?

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I get really irritated by people who pretend to be friendly, I have a had enough time as it is working out what is geniuine.
Salespeople/cashirs are the worst. I have a hard enough time as it trying to cope with all the stimuli, just scan the damn thing and tell me the price.

I'm offended by people who don't have the backbone to tell me something straight and clear and insist on all this subtle hints till you get the message crap.

Thanks

People who jump the bus queue when it is very clear that there is a line of people waiting.

Being called an "aspie".

I'm actually pretty affectionate with the few people who are allowed to do such things as hug me (even though I still don't feel entirely comfortable most of the time). Whenever I'm visiting my mother, and one of my sisters comes over, I insist on a group hug.

But today, someone who's not on my "list" asked if he could hug me. I told him that, if he tried, he would get a foot to the groin, and he could ask the last guy I did that to.

Okay I changed the title of this thread a bit as my last intention was to offend others with AS who dont like the expression "aspie"

I think its very individual to what we regard as offending and not. My idea with this thread was to find out in what diffrent ways we with AS can get offended
something thats offending to one person, is cross to another and not liking to another while another dont mind the same thing at all

Your example on passing by the busqueue is something I dont like but I dont pay attention to it to the grade as feeling personally offended by it

i'm offended by social injustice, phony people, people who are willfully and proudly ignorant, and people that make that snorting/spitting noise in public.

I get offended when people say I look mad when I am not, then I get mad.

When people call me names, "ret*d" and "simpleton" included,
in a derogatory manner.

When people voluntarily help me when I did not ask for help.

jesus, YES. it's like a self-fulfilling prohpecy. someone on the elevator at work did this to me this morning (way to start my day at 7am, broad) "gee, you look happy to be here." i just turned and said "no, i was just born with an expressionless face." that shut her up. and i wasn't even DOING anything to her, just standing there. i mean, where do people get off just brazenly pointing out things about you, especially in the already close and uncomfortable confines of an elevator? i could never do that to someone, let alone someone i don't even know! what pisses me off is that it always seems there's much worse people around to say that to, like expressionless, empty teenage girls who seem to get away with it.

see, now i AM mad.

I'm also offended when people I don't know or trust try to touch me in some way, and there's a mall kiosk with lotion salespeople that are notorious for this. As a result, I don't shop at the Victoria's Secret at that mall since that offensive kiosk is right in front of the entrance. I go to another mall were that store is right next to the mall entrance and I can just walk in, do my shopping, and go back out without being touched.

"No, just thinking."

Which is usually true.

I get a variant of this sometimes.

"Are you okay?"

"Yeah.. just thinky."

People touching me and getting in my personal space bubble. This should be obvious.
People being patronizing; as a very shy-looking young female, I get that a lot. Sometimes they mean well, though... meh.
People misinterpreting my facial expressions, which I think are usually neutral. I really like to relax my facial muscles whenever possible, and this looks angry/sad/scared depending on the observer and the mood they are in. The next time someone tells me to smile...
Also, stereotypes of any sort, particularly those that would apply to me of course. Recently I overheard a conversation in a group of teenagers where one mentioned Aspergers (I nearly jumped) and said that it was an excuse for being a jerk. I didn't know that the syndrome was that well known!

There are plenty of other things, some of which posters have already mentioned, like an anti-intellectual attitude, ignorance in general, and the stereotypical loud, stupid, hyper-extrovert teenager personality.

/rant

I don't find it offending, just annoying. If I wanted help from someone I would ask but I would definitely not ask a complete stranger for help, so I would find it weird why a complete stranger would offer to help me. It's like they just want an excuse to pry into my life.

Thank you for clarifying. I am having a blind spot with it still so not totally sure what offends me, I will think further on this one.

Kaleido see it from the positive side that you have hard to define whats offending to you. I interpret it as you are not so easily offended

Okay, lets bring on some examples and then state if its offending to you or not

*Someone passing by you in the busqueue
xalepax says annoying

*Someone tells you "just do it" pointing on an AS problem which to you is a huge barrier
(meaning the person in question doesnt understand the seriousness in the problem)
xalepax says offending (even if I know that my AS can be very difficult to understand)

*A stranger starts talking to you in a shop saying "look, isnt this a nice dress"
xalepax finds it cross

*People playing music loud in the bus or on the train
xalepax strongly dislikes it as its very selfish people who do that and who gives the s**t about other people beeing around disliking their noise....


So, my conclusion is that offending to me is when Im feeling "personally attacked" but gets cross when people around you does stupid things which is not personally directed to me

And here Kaleido you also see an example of diffrent ways we can interpret the same situation

Well, to me its offending because Im very sensitive when people I dont know and dont trust is tresspassing into my private sphere and on top of it I want to do things myself no matter how difficult it might look like