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Mdyar
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03 Dec 2009, 3:49 pm

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Sure I'm only 23 but I've never dated and don't have friends ZERO so no get togethers or parties etc. So I don't even know how I'd behave in these situations. Also since I was homeschooled no prom and the whole College issue of course. :-(

So what life experiences have you missed?

I went out on my first date at the age of 35.
I'm quite handsome as the ladies say, but I didnt have any confidence and it took my wife to pursue me...... little did she know the surprise that was waiting. :lol:

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03 Dec 2009, 3:55 pm

I have missed out on most ordinatry life experiences in my teens because of no friends etc., and I pretty much missed out on "college life" (I attended college for a little over a year, but that was mostly just surviving). I have been in a relationship now for 1 1/2 years, but I didn't have any Gprior experience with relationships/dating/sex/etc. Good thing is neither did my boyfriend.

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03 Dec 2009, 4:05 pm

I skippped my prom (the topic is actually under "School and College Life")
For those of you who live in the GTA (no, not Grand Theft Auto but Greater Toronto Area) I have never been to Wonderland. I think I will enjoy the rides and stuff, but I never got the chance to go somehow
I probably won't enjoy parties so whatever...

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04 Dec 2009, 12:27 am

I never kissed a girl (on the lips)
I have never had a girlfriend.

Incidentally, those are the two things I want most of all.

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04 Dec 2009, 12:34 am

Most people would probably say I missed out on life experiences, like teen the teen social thing...But IMO, had I actually been able to do those things, I don't think I would be any happier or better off. So I guess it depends how you look at it, or who's looking at it. I certainly don't feel bad about missing out on that stuff.

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04 Dec 2009, 1:29 am

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04 Dec 2009, 1:30 am

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THANK YOU, YES! This is exactly how I see it.

And what of it I did experience....it was incredibly over-rated, and it was fun for a while, but then I got really, really bored, and wanted more out of life.

Folks understand..you're not missing out on it, because it's a lot to do with social communication and body language and all that...an area we don't even really understand.

It's like Morse Code being the big thing, but you don't even mentally understand it, thus can't comprehend "what's so great about it", so you don't use it.

Twitter is really big right now, and while I have an account, I barely use it; I don't see what's so great about it....

I see photos of people getting hammered like crazy, and taking pictures with their friends, and I don't understand the level of appeal for it really.

This just tells me I really don't think I'm missing anything; it's not for me, anyway.

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04 Dec 2009, 3:42 am

jc6chan wrote:

For those of you who live in the GTA (no, not Grand Theft Auto but Greater Toronto Area) I have never been to Wonderland. I think I will enjoy the rides and stuff, but I never got the chance to go somehow

I probably won't enjoy parties so whatever...

Lol, I had to go to Wonderland for a physics fieldtrip... it's certainly fun, but very exhausting. All the noise, the crowds, and the waiting for each ride are overwhelming. I wouldn't have much motivation to go back again unless it were some special day with very few people there. I wish... :roll:

I've never been to any parties, either.

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04 Dec 2009, 4:05 am

Lessee...I had a sort of unconventional teenagehood that was dominated by my band once I joined the band...so I had some interesting life experiences from that I guess...but I never went to prom, never learned to drive..I won't ever marry or have children...um...My one attempt at living in another city away from my home town was a disaster....I am sure I am not missing much though...

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04 Dec 2009, 4:28 am

Well, because I'm 18, I guess this doesn't really apply to me. However some life experiences are kind of overrated. The prom was loud, boring and too long. It also got kind of awkward at the end. The only thing I liked about it was having dinner with my friends, but I could have had dinner with them anyway. I don't and never had a boyfriend/girlfriend and I, frankly, couldn't care less. My friends once asked me why I "couldn't just have a bit of fun?" meaning that they wondered why I couldn't just have a relationship that wasn't serious. My answer was something like "I don't want to have a bit of fun". I've had a chance to have sex and didn't because I didn't want to. I'm not asexual- I just didn't feel that I had to. I did start drinking a little before my birthday, but it was for a special occassion. I'm 18 (nearly 19) and I have never exploited my age to go drinking every weekend and I don't want to. Drinking is overrated. I don't want to get married and don't want kids.

The only thing I'm really annoyed by is not having a job. I could barely cope with my volunteer work (but I think that is all to do with my abysmal organisational skills more than my bad social skills). I'm also easily overwhelmed, especially by vague verbal instructions.

I've had plenty of experiences that I can look back on. They're just not very conventional.

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04 Dec 2009, 4:48 am

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I never went to the prom, and have no regrets. People always used to tell me "don't take life so seriously"....and then never knew what to do when all hell broke loose, while I did.

I don't drink. I had some ceremonial wine at two religious family gatherings many years ago...absolutely hated it, and have never touched alcohol since.

I am in a very serious relationship with my girlfriend, and despite many things, I have refused to go all the way until that ring is on her finger. Even my co-workers think I'm crazy for staying a virgin until then; I let them think whatever they want.

the only thing I've missed out on in life is all the regret that would've come with doing these stupid, overrated things that I'm glad I never wasted my time doing!

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04 Dec 2009, 6:52 am

I suppose I've missed out on most of the friendship stuff, most of having a career, all those things they say networking will bring you. I say "I suppose" because I don't really know...

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04 Dec 2009, 7:19 am

Having friends in school
Dances/proms
Formal events
Steady jobs

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04 Dec 2009, 7:39 am

maintaining relationships, I actually never had a real one. Having a child, I have cats instead. Being a party girl like everybody else. I ususally do things on my own.

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04 Dec 2009, 3:14 pm

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I've had plenty of experiences that I can look back on. They're just not very conventional.

...I am in a very serious relationship with my girlfriend, and despite many things, I have refused to go all the way until that ring is on her finger. Even my co-workers think I'm crazy for staying a virgin until then; I let them think whatever they want.

the only thing I've missed out on in life is all the regret that would've come with doing these stupid, overrated things that I'm glad I never wasted my time doing![/quote]

Good for you. While I'm very lenient about sexuality and I'm very open to different expressions of it, I think it is unfair to think someone is insane because they believe that sexuality should be within marriage or at least a serious relationship. I mean, it's you life, right?

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04 Dec 2009, 5:22 pm

I missed out on almost all 'normal' teenage experiences, although I did get to do similar things (a boyfriend, going out with friends etc.) in my 20s. However, in the place of that, I have a huge amount of life experience that most people my age - at least the middle class, well educated people that I tend to associate with (being a scientist) don't have, to the extent that I find these people of my own age rather naive and idealistic about life.

My experiences of being severely depressed and hospitalised often makes me feel closer to the underpriveliged working class (who are over-represented in these situations), rather than the well educated middle class that I come from (particularly as I have never had the self-confident, self promotive attitude that most univeristy graduates seem to have as a matter of course. I guess I am very aware that, for a few minor things, I could easily be there myself. To me, that is life experience - negative experiences provide just as much, if not more, life experience than the usual positive ones most people have.

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