Apies and Babies?

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I am male, but I have an intense liking for babies (thought they are cute), also baby animals. This kind of intendency extends to gals - so I find cute gals more attractive than sexy gals.

Is this trait part of Apiesm?

no you just like baby's

i also have a weakness cute cuteness

In my opinion, babies are one of the biggest causes for destruction towards peoples' goals and motives.

Indeed, quoted for truth.

However, I am similar to the OP in that I tend to be attracted more to the "cute" women than the outright sexy ones, no clue why. I know for certain that babies tend to be magnetically attracted to me, but toddlers tends to be scared (because of how damn huge I am or so I think)

I HOPE it's not part of Asperger's, because I am repelled by babies and chiildren. I don't understand them and they make me nervous.

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I'm a female aspie, and I love babies. I love things that are small and cute.

I sometimes like cute objects but babies, toddlers, little kids...no way. I am so horrible with kids, dont think there cute at all.

Little animals like kittens and stuff are cute...but I don't like human babies.

There's something creepy about them...

And aren't you lucky that your parents didn't think like that. For some people children ARE both a goal and a motive.


Babies are cool. Its fascinating to watch a human unfold and blossom.

Those of you who are intimidated by them because you don't understand them, just haven't been around babies enough. They are wonderful and loving and funny and very friendly (if they're not hungry, frightened or uncomfortable) - and when they're clean they smell fabulous - there's nothing sweeter or more pure than the smell of a fresh baby.

And they're a helluva lot more cuddly than CATS. bleah.


Cute chicks are wAaAy hotter than girls with model looks, because they are generally less vain and much more approachable. But I don't think that's necessarily connected to the cuteness of babies. Maybe. I dunno...

I like babies & think they're cute & sweet. Definitely prefer babies to older children who speak and drive me nuts with they're social stuffs. I can deal with kids but I tend to magnetize the odd ones or am generally ignored. But babies can be the most beautiful and dangerous existing thing on the planet b/c of their appeal combining with their fragility & dependance on others. The dependance and fragility is probably why many people don't like them.

Baby humans I have an intense dislike of. They are noisy, dirty and demand too much attention. I could never handle a someone else's child let alone one of my own. I sometimes need to be alone for months at a time to enage in my special intrests. I could never handle a child and made up my mind when I was four that I was going to stay perpertualy single and never have kids. I don't even like to refur to my pets as children, they are my younger siblings.

I believe that it is a part of a larger aspect of Aspie-ism.

Preferences tend to be skewed away from the norm in aspies with regards to what we find the most attractive. I think this applies to a very broad range of things too, not just what we look for in partners/mates, but what we find otherwise aesthetically pleasing too, such as art.

I would wager a guess that it derives from us looking at detail first, whereas NT's look at the whole first.
the stereo-typical "sexy woman" is about curves and symmetry. You need to look at the whole to see that. We are also more specific-oriented too, so it's more likely that a specific attribute will be very important to you.

As far as liking babies specifically... I don't think it's aspie-specific in it's nature.. though it is certainly not at odds with aspie. Those of us who are mind-blind often have less difficulty understanding pre-speech children. They have to put more "effort" into the cues, as it's their only way to communicate, so we are more able to pick up on them. Perhaps this gives us an affinity to them. I also personally find that they're the only human beings that I can look into the eyes of without that mental pain I usually get.... I don't need to hide anything from them, and I know that there is nothing they're hiding from me... So eye contact is fine.

Touchy topic that I'll switch to here.... Just glancing the surface, and I'll let you fill in the blanks.
Aspies have a tendency to stare when they're preoccupied.
Combine that with liking children.
Be cautious of your actions and behaviors lest they be perceived as something you do not want them to be perceived as.
We draw misunderstanding to us, as a magnet draws iron filings....

Babies are loud, smelly, fragile and usually accompanied by adults going ape-shit over every mundane thing they do.

I can't say I'm particularly intoxicated by them, no.

Actually, its much easier when its your own.

But I am quickly coming to understand why there are so many in these threads complaining about how they can't get dates and nobody wants to be in a relationship with them.

Anyone who can spew this kind of bile and hatred toward innocent little babies, simply because the idea of diverting even a part of their attention from their own interests is unacceptable, is not capable of entering into a mature relationship with another person.

If you're so cold hearted and self absorbed that you have no compassion to give for someone completely innocent and helpless, how can you ever hope to attract, or sustain a relationship with, someone old enough to actually have personal baggage and flaws?

I would highly disagree. One one hand, being able to give your time and energy to another person while in a relationship is important, but at the same time people who dislike small children aren't necessarily incapable of a mature relationship. I have no interest in children, and honestly do not like them for a number of reasons, but I would not compare a dislike of children with a complete lack of compassion when it comes to something 'innocent and helpless'.

Being able to care for a child and care for a mate is a different thing. I would not place them in the same category, as the type of energy and time is of a different fashion. While there are comparisons, some people just do not like children and do not want to have them. I, for one, have trouble with loud noises so babies crying tend to cause me extreme distress. This is not me being a cruel human being, but me having general sensory issues.

Similarly, I cannot speak to a child rationally (which is the only way I know how to communicate) and that is highly frustrating. THere are many more issues that make me have a general dislike towards being around babies/small children, but once more: I wouldn't say that makes me a 'cold hearted' individual who couldn't maintain a relationship (if I had any interest in one).



I don't mind small animals, though I prefer full grown ones. I never understood how small equivocated to cute?