Birthdays Alone (Am I the Only One?)

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next thursday is my birthday and the only person I will see (apart from my parents and my sister) is my psychiatrist.

Since I and my nearly 6 yo daughter lives with my parents (financial crap, I work full time but can't afford a place of my own, not that it would work anyway since I work nights, which even pays better than most other jobs) my mother of course always knows when it's my birthday.

But apart from that, the only thing that's happened on my birthday the last few years are the few f*****g facebook greetings, before that it was an occasional sms if I somehow had made it known that it was my birthday, and even when I HAD two friends neither did anything special for my birthday, unless it fell on a friday or saturday and we went out, as we occasionally did on those days...

No, the last 10-15 years I've spent my birthdays alone.

Alone and watching a video, crying 15-10 years ago.

Alone, drunk on beer, watching a dvd, 10-5 years ago.

The last 5 years or so I've made it a point to stock up on beer, dvd's, new games for the 'box and a bottle of sparkly.
I enjoy myself more, mostly because I no longer expect someone to magically appear at my door and take me away to a surprise birthday party.

I still usually end up crying at some point, though.

gawd i hate birthdays. i celebrated them until i was 14, then i moved schools and didnt have a close group of friends so didnt do much for my bday again until my 18th. i dont think i did anything for my 19th & 20th. for one of them i was sposed to be spending it with a bf but then he didnt come at the last minute so i literally stayed home all day:(. my 21st was nice for a change and my 22nd wasnt bad either- saw a film, played pool, went for a meal and had drinks with some friends from work. but i'm sure i have many more birthdays alone to look forward to lol.
it adds insult to injury when people ask you what you did for it after and you feel you have to make something up so you dont sound like a loser:|.
and i try to tell as few people as possibly its my birthday anyway because i hate having a fuss made over me

Birthdays are embarrassing.

My Birthday was over 2 weeks ago, and I went to see Toy Story 3 by myself.

But I'm used to not making a big deal of birthdays.

I've been alone on my last two. I anticipate there will be many more to come.

Meh

I've spent a lot of Birthdays alone, until 2007, just three years, ago. I felt a little sad and lonely, and I was wondering what the point was, in even celebrating. I'm lucky, that I have three really good friends, that I celebrate Birthdays with.

I watched an episode of Moonlighting that conveyed the idea that birthdays were a time to reflect how far one has come from the year before.

Somehow, that resonated with me, and I looked at my birthday as a milestone to reflect upon.

Sadly, I had many setbacks and watched as year after year went on with me seeming to go nowhere. Soon, my birthday became something to be depressed about, not happy. I just wanted to be more successful, more prosperous, happier, etc. than I was last year, but it never seemed to happen.

Add to that the fact that I'm not popular and don't have much as far as people to "celebrate" with and I stopped observing the day altogether.

Thank you so much for your replies. Some comments made me laugh and some made me sad.

The comment about having to talk about what you did for your birthday after the fact, oh yeah forgot about that. That may be why I stopped celebrating my birthday at work so I wouldn't have to deal with that issue. Thanks for reminding me.

I've cried on my birthday a few times too.

I think part of my asperger's is my difficulty with my ability to solve problems. It wasn't until last year (at the 50th birthday) that I made a decision that I can do something that I REALLY LIKE. So I guess that's the plan for now.

I'm taking methotrexate so I can't have any alcohol, otherwise, that would be in the birthday plan. I asked my doctor if I could have one beer a month and she said no because this med is very hard on the liver. So I am protecting my liver.

I look forward to hearing the rest of you.

D.

I spend every birthday alone these days, and am grateful to be able to do so. What's really great is that my family (parents and sister) is/are going away for Thanksgiving this year, so it will be just me! My best Thanksgivings have been by myself, cooking a great feast just for me, watching whatever I like on TV and not having to talk to anyone. It helps, of course, that I am never lonely.

This year I spent my 50th birthday alone. I woke up, thought "F**k it, I'm 50!" and carried on as I do most days, without giving it another thought.

Yeah. I hate birthdays. My family always has to act like i did something amazing, and that i should be rewarded. It makes me feel ashamed for not doing something amazing. My last birthday was my twenty first, and i was so quiet, that my mother eventually started crying.

I think. Maybe i should just develop cures to life threatening sicknesses, on the days before my birthday, so i should be rewarded, and my birthday can be a happy one ha.

Yeah, I usually forget when I have them. I have spent my last 3 birthdays away alone or something.

This thread is quite

My birthday is just like any other day to me. I like being wished a happy birthday, but that's about it.

The past few years I've avoided the whole "birthday party" concept - which did confuse my parents - why would someone not want a 16th birthday party? An 18th birthday party?

The whole party planning has been stressful to me, because of the ever common problem... I don't know anyone to invite, and I don't want a socially awkward event. Especially the past few years, I just gave up trying and put my effort instead into convincing my parents a birthday party isn't worth it.

I'll likely be spending many alone in upcoming years. I don't know anyone and I don't like the idea of a party for myself, about myself... with others... I just don't like drawing attention to myself so I avoid parties. >.> Something must be wrong with me.