Which school years were you most isolated from your peers??

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I would say from junior high on. I've ALWAYS had trouble connecting and making friends. If I do make friends they never stick around long......I don't even bother trying anymore. I am used to it. It's funny though because I have been married for a long time and the only two friends I do have are girls.....Guys seem to keep their distance from me for some reason........and I'm a guy......

I only had small pockets of schooling where I had friends, I'd say 70% of it I was alone and picked on. I remember in year 7 [final year of primary school] I'd sit outside the classroom at lunch while everyone else played and just wait to go back to class. I sat there and watched everyone have fun.

No one wanted to play with me. The one girl who wanted to talk to me was only there once a week [if that] as she went home each lunch break, some religion she had.

I've never been fully integrated (I'm isolated somewhat now, but it's more a lack of people willing to talk about my interests, not a lack of friends,) but it was at it's worst in years 6 and 7. I was at a new school, had a couple of friends at the old one which meant I always had someone to talk to (the bullying there was much worse, but these couple of friends made it bearable.) This was never the case when I moved to a new school, being very eccentric and having very poor social skills.

I'm in grade 10. I felt EXTREMELY isolated in grades 8 and 9.

I got put in a class with only one of previous friends in Grade 8 and lots of boys. (I feel don't get along with most boys that are in their early teens) Most of those kids were cliquey. There was one boy that seemed to like me OK as a friend, however, he never says "hi" to me now.

I picked 3-5, but that was only barely. Bullying was pretty constant up into high school. High school was actually slightly better in that more people would actually talk to me and none of the teachers took part in the bullying. On the other hand, people tried to trick me all the time. Nothing super awful but just saying things that almost sounded plausible in order to embarrass me and make me feel uncomfortable. Except I didn't always understand what they were doing. Except when someone started explicitly talking about sex, which I did not love.

To elaborate:

In K-2 people talked to me, but there was harassment as well.

3-5 was pretty bad as this was the period during which the bullying was most frightening, violent, and traumatic to me.

6-8 people talked to me, but the teachers participated in bullying, and there was a lot of actual bullying. This was also the period I got in the most trouble for fighting back.

It was difficult for me to choose only one answer, but I finally chose Grades 11-12. Grades K-2 were okay, since my Asperger's hadn't taken full effect yet. This changed radically in Grades 3 and 4, and I lost all of my friends. I was never isolated from my peers, however, because they would seek me out after school and on the playground, and there was lots of contact between my face and many of their fists. Everyone at my school loved to beat me up at every opportunity because I was different and antisocial. The worst part about this was that the teachers let them beat me up, since I made a lot of trouble for the teachers, and their students were able to liberally dish out the punishment they couldn't.

I continued to lose friends faster than I made them, even when I moved around from city to city. By the time I got to high school, I found the best way to not get beaten up every five minutes was to completely isolate myself from everyone, and hide in the least traveled and least accessible part of the school I attended at that time between classes. - LJS