Thanksgiving - So many Turkeys, so little time - not a favor

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we came to a side road, and off the side of the
side road there was another fifteen foot cliff and at the bottom of the
cliff there was another pile of garbage. And we decided that one big pile
is better than two little piles, and rather than bring that one up we
decided to throw our's down.

But I don't want to be left alone the whole time that's the problem......its akward as hell to be at a family gathering were no one wants to talk to you or has any intrest in what you might have to say.

So that's what we did, drove back to the church, had a Thanksgiving dinner that couldn't be beat, went to sleep and didn't get up until the next morning, when we got a phone call from officer Obie.

I understand, because when I first married him, I wanted his family to like me and I tried to make conversation with them. Then I discovered that not only did they care what I might have to say, but I didn't care what they had to say. So, I sit with a book and help out in the kitchen and stuff, and I'm perfectly happy. I don't mind at all, really.

Frances

He said, "Kid,
we found your name on an envelope at the bottom of a half a ton of
garbage, and just wanted to know if you had any information about it." And
I said, "Yes, sir, Officer Obie, I cannot tell a lie, I put that envelope
under that garbage."

Well I would prefer to just not go in general.......that would solve the problem. lol

Then don't go. Is there some reason you have to? I never understood why families who don't get along feel that they have to get together for holidays, etc, just because it's tradition. I can see doing it if you have kids and want to see them on it, but otherwise, I don't have a lot of interest in holidays. If I was living alone and didn't have kids, I wouldn't even observe them. As it is, I've been cooking all day, as have my daughters, for a dinner that will last no longer than 30 minutes.

Frances

Frances

It is actually one of those dammned if I do dammned if I don't situations.......if I don't go I get to have my mom complain at me and possibly other family members complain at me next time they see me. If I do go I end up sitting in the corner being lonely or going out for a smoke being lonely.

I'm not using quote anymore because it's getting to long and I don't know how to make it smaller.

You could fake an illness so you don't have to go. Say you are sick to your stomach. If you live with someone, go to the bathroom a lot and just stand around in there for a few minutes and say you have the runs too, and don't feel like going. They can't complain about that. If they do, so what? You have complaints about them too that are just as valid, and they have no ill effects from it. Your happiness and comfort are just as important as theirs is, so if you don't want to go, don't go! Just say, politely but firmly "I don't feel well, I think I'm going to stay home and possibly go back to bed. I'm sorry to miss it, but you all have a good time, bye." There is really nothing they can say to that, other than try to talk you into going. All you have to do is say "I'm sorry, but I can't".

Frances

I hate holidays and family gatherings.

My parents are divorced- I can't stand my mom's family because they are extremely loud, and bigoted. And I used to really like my dad's family, but now that I and all my cousins have grown up, everyone brings friends/boyfriends/girlfriends and I am the odd person out. I was with my dad's family today, and my stepsister had her friend and boyfriend over the whole day, whom I hate. Everyone just sits there watching sports and pretending to be interested in catching up with each other. I left after like 20 minutes.

it was ok for me - a small gathering and many of them were in the kitchen so I only had a couple of people to deal with - that I can handle - now.

I got lucky this year. I ended up waking up, eating breakfast, getting a shower, brushing my teeth, going to work, coming home, eating dinner, and then went to bed. No awkward Thanksgiving moments for me.