"Too Nice"?

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Like some spineless high-voiced loser that I went to college with.

Not in a long time, if at all. Mostly people say I'm an ass. And I am.

Yeah, that's my problem. I try not to be too nice, but normally I fail.


Nope, I read it as El Goonish Shive .

Yes, I used to read that webcomic loads, although just recently I haven't read it for ages ... but the moniker "Demonic Duck" has stuck for me. Now I use it on a whole load of message boards and even as my MSN name.

I think I'm nice but the rest of the world disagrees.

I don't think people like my honesty. I wouldn't tell someone that I didn't like their new hairdo but I wouldn't lie about liking it either. And I voice my opinion a lot and argue until I'm blue in the face if I know I'm right about something. Personally, I don't see how those traits have anything to do with niceness. Surely being nice is about listening to people and being there for them and offering to help them when they need it? I think there are people in the world who are so firmly on the fence that any signs of off-the-fencedness offends them and they see it as being mean. That or I'm just a b***h.

Yes, often. I don't think it is actually that I am nice, it's just that I'm so unsure of the social rules that I err on the side of being very polite for fear of accidentally being offensive.
I let my shadow have the odd outing every now and then though just for balance.

yes! i have been called too nice. and one time, a now ex girlfriend asked me "were you bullied as a child?'" and i didnt even realize she was setting me up. and she would say rude things to me for no reason, to see if i would "stay" nice, and i'd ask her why she would want to be mean when im nice to her, not getting emotional, just curious as to why she asked me rude things or said mean things.

watch out aspies! there are people out there who willl see your niceness as a weakness. the sad fact is there are unhappy people out there that do not appreciate some of the more altruistic emotions and beleifs associated with being an aspie; honesy, justice, fairness, kindness... we can be very convenient targets for ne'er do wells. whatch out or they will burn you, and you know what happens when you get frustrated and burned... i know i know dont go there...

so take the precautions below;

if you are being nice to someone in your life (like to a friend or a girl or boyfriend especially) and they are acting weird to you, trust me on this, ask your closest friends what they think. not them, someone else. listen carefully to their advice. there are people out there who will try and manipulate you for all of your good qualities.

like george harrison once sang: "beware of sadness". listen to that song sometime... there are sad people out there who will try and play you...

Mike

Yes, definitely. I used to apologize way too much. As a child, I was constantly scolded and blamed for everything, so I guess it comes from there. Besides, I don't think I know when it is really appropriate to apologise, so I used to do it always, even where it sounds very awkward (for things that are much too petty or aren't my fault, etc), apparently on the pirnciple that there can't be too much of a good thing. It could've also been a sort of counter-reaction to my natural directness. I can be very blunt if I don't watch my tongue, so I may have learned to avoid hurting others by trying to behave in an opposite way and being sickeningly polite.

Everyone I knew would notice it. It wasn't too pleasant either, apparently; I'm told I made others feel guilty and uncomfortable. Now it's getting better, at least I have developed a better sense of when to say sorry, but I'm still overly cautious with people. I usually go out of my way not to do or say anything hurtful, and worry and get upset if I think I have. Not that I really know when I have or not. Sometimes I send concerned text messages to my friends or call them just to ask them whether I happened to say anything bad the last time we talked; or I replay conversations in my mind over and over again agonizing over what could've been awkward or upsetting.

I don't know if other people think I'm too nice, but I know I certainly have thought that at times I have been too nice.