Do you type or write better than you speak?

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I can probably write better than I speak, but I'm pretty sure I speak as well as most folks or better.

English; can type/write better, yet doesn't speak well with it.

Mother tongue; type/writes a bit worse, yet speak better with it.


Can listen and read at both.

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I do both writing and speaking decently. However, each method has its own set of stresses for me.

With speaking, I can seem normal or even charming for short periods. I can get people to laugh easily, too. However, this is incredibly draining for me. Depending on what's going on in a day, how short a "short" period of time is can vary drastically, too. This is due to a variety of factors, such as if I'm already tense, if I'm tired, if there's a lot of annoying background noise, etc. Maybe I could keep up a social mask for hours, or maybe I could last 5 minutes. It's highly variable. I don't have this entirely under control.

Psyching myself up for a social interaction helps me. Unexpected interaction feels worse for me. Yet, either way, I'm stressed and drained when I'm alone later, and stim.

One of my big problems is not letting my face fall in the middle of a conversation. This happens when my social discomfort becomes too high to continue seeming social. This is totally creepy to people, too. We'll be chatting, everything seems light, and then I... just shut down for a few seconds. I can feel it coming, almost like a wave; this overwhelming sense that I want to be somewhere else, that I can't handle this. If I can't get away fast enough, then it's a problem, because my facial control lapses. I'll try to perk back up after going facially flat, until I can excuse myself from the situation, but by this point I've already unnerved whoever I'm talking to.

I've done well at writing since I was little, and have improved as I've aged. However, I consistently worry over my wording, because additional time often improves how clear I am. I get anxious about inadvertently saying something wrong or stupid, or making some minor error that could alter the perceived intent of my words. This causes me to spend far too much time when I write something simple, reviewing it repeatedly, often writing too much, and often reading it aloud to myself to proof-check it. Sometimes, I get so anxious about this that after I'll go through the effort of typing something, I'll then delete my effort. I almost deleted this response.

Conflict does stress me out. How much it does varies. It depends on the situation, topic, how many people are involved, and the personalities of the people involved. Yet, I generally prefer confrontation, because it gets simmering problems out of the way. Silent resentment, hiding disagreement, and passive-aggression directed at me from others are all harder for me to deal with. I also dislike seeing other people treated in those ways, which often seems to be what happens without resolving conflict.

I'd say typing, though not on WP, for the reason that I'm usually using my phone, which doesn't really count.

Same here... I still 'blurt,' but it's more palatable if I write it.

I think I'm about equivalent, skill-wise. Verbal things in general are my forte.

I suppose perhaps I have more tact writing, as I'm not exactly known for having a filter and writing affords a bit more time to think wording through. But on the other hand, writing strips out a lot of the nonverbal nuance, so some of the blunter things I say might sound harsher in writing...