Oh I'm ever so 'umble

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By definition you cant be humble and act all superior about it at the same time. It is up to the individual how they live their lives and i have not met too many Mother Theresa's in my life either.

I think indulging oneself a little bit every so often is just healthy really...

My sister got married. I had to wear a dress. Why do you have to wear a dress at weddings? I HATE dresses. Most people were in a expensive hotel. There was a party before the wedding. And we went to the church and someone told us where to sit. Why cant you sit anywhere? And a priest talked forever bout tables. And I had to sit there and I was really bored. And there was a party after. I dont know how to spell it. That took all night. I hate weddings.

My god aren't we self righteous? Humble...pssssht. Self-glorified? I'd say that is what you are.

To some people, traveling and having experiences is what life is all about. Maybee you are happy doing what you are and that is great! Your sister needs to do what makes her happy. This life is too short. Maybee she has it right and you have it wrong about money. Perhaps she feels that life is too short not to enjoy the money that she earns.

It is a little wrong to expect others to accomodate a large sum financially just to be a part of her wedding but as far as the other stuff...let it go.

I think it rather healthy to indulge yourself a little bit once in a while. You should spend a little bit more than what you're thinking on spending, since for lots of people a wedding is only once in a lifetime; a huge day spent around you and someone that you love enough to marry. I do think it ridiculous to invite the whole family and have them pay that huge sum of money just to go somewhere. I heard something from my mom once that she heard from a friend, that there was a wedding with several meetups (a couple luncheons and socials and a reception) that they had to keep bringing gifts; that's a little much to ask for, since wedding gifts are usually somewhat expensive things, you know, not your average basketball or cd that you'd get someone for a birthday gift or another 'normal' occasion. I would, however, make it a little fancy but keep the costs down enough where people don't have to pay for everything. I think that on such special occasions like these in your life, the sky could virtually be the limit. It's your choice how you spend your wedding, though.

i agree with you on all points except one: the cost of the wedding ring you intend to buy for your future wife. giving someone a wedding ring is, traditionally, something you will only do once in a lifetime so purchasing something a little more luxurious would be justifiable. after all, it is something that your future wife is expected to wear every day- possibly for the rest of her life.

the amount of money your sister expects people to spend just so she can show off is shocking. when (if) i get married the only thing i would demand from my guests is that they are polite to me for the whole day so i can enjoy my wedding without having anything to worry about.

i have never gambled in my life and i don't understand why anybody does. i've always thought of it as a voluntary tax for gullible people. i have to work hard for the money i earn so i appreciate it's value.

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I absolutely agree. I am worried my mum is going that way too, demanding more and more from my step-dad, even though she is not working herself!! !

Its Capitalism for you.

Once it has got you, you can't break free. more more more More More More MORE MORE MORE MORE MORE



OK. Capitalism is evil, along with its brothers: Social Darwinism, Competition, Racism, War, etc, etc.

It turns otherwise decent people into money-mad monsters.

I see society falling apart around me, and there is nothing I can do. Greedy corporations preying on the weaknesses of ordinary people, luring them into the small pleasures of capitalism, whilst all around children go hungry.

What is to be done??

:: groans :: Oh dear lord...


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I have no problem with being humble and dont like greed either but at the end of the day it is your sister's wedding not yours and it is totally up to her and fiance to decide what to do for their wedding. The only way i would be annoyed if i was you is if i had good reason to suspect she was trying to price me out of it to avoid me going while giving other people the chance.

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