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Hello everyone, I am a student in highschool who is doing a report on AS, I was wondering if there was something that i should make clear during my report, like facts that a book or website might not be able to tell me. I'm also having trouble finding some facts about treatments, like what is done to help someone with AS. Another difficult area im finding to understand... is something a book called Sensory Sensitivity. I guess i understand what its saying and i can picture it... but since i've never really experienced it myself, i was wondering if i could hear what some of you have to say about it.

If anyone could help that would be great. I'm giving the report this thursday so i need something as soon as possible! Thank you!

p.s. My nephew was diagnosed with AS only a few months ago, that is why i decided to do a report on this.

People with Aspergers syndrome like you to say what you mean and mean what you say, they don't understand tact very well and usually find it pointless and insulting.
Sensitive to noises and heat and light and most like soft clothing against their skin (because they don't like rough clothing against their skin.)
Also many have space issues, they don't like people just walking into their personal space, and are wary of going into others personal space. eg when my aspie son greets a friend he shakes their hand standing about three or four feet away. When I want to hug my daughter who is also Aspie I have to ask first, not so much because of the hug but because the hug would mean moving into her personal space.
A parent wrote on this site about her daughter with aspergers, The mother had asked her daughter to go and grill some cheese, so the daughter literally as she was told. But a neurotypical person would understand that the cheese was supposed to be on the bread first. People with Aspergers do things literally. It can take a long time to teach them exactly what you meant, so you have to say exactly what you mean.
http://www.wrongplanet.net/asperger.htm ... ge&pid=112

When I was a small child I used to hat getting dressed, due to the fabric materials and tags. Sometimes the situation would get really out of hand, and I would frequently show violent behaviour. I would rip and tug on my clothes all the time, and once in a while, it would upset me so much that I would injure myself. Although I still feel the same way about some clothing, the situation is much better. I now choose what I wear and do not wear.

Noises that usually don't bother other people, tend to make me really upset. For instance, I cannot stand beeing in a shopping mall for an extended amount of time. This also becomes a problem when I have to work in a room with large groups of people. When I am trying to concentrate, I am constantly interrupted by noises around me (like the ticking of a clock, or someone having a conversation). However, when I find something very interesting, I can sit for hours on end in a trance-like state and never notice a single sound.
I also tend to complain about noises others do not seem to hear.

I have always been a very picky eater. Often I cannot stand either the smell, taste or texture of the food.

Bright light sometimes makes me physically ill.

I cannot handle other people touching my head/hair/face.

People like us are very smart, but they just have social issues.

Thanks for the help guys I hope you dont mind but i decided to just quote a few of you on the sensory sensitivity stuff. The only other thing id like to know is what starting a friendship is like for someone with AS? And what kind of people make the best friends? I figure the best way for others that have not experienced anything like this could absorb it more if they heard someone else say what its really like, not just the facts out of a book.

You are welcome!

Tomorrow is my presentation! Any last words i can get from people? About friendship or simply life with AS?

You have to be accepting and patient with people with AS. They may act "weird" or "dumb" but if you get to know them they are really fascinating people. Don't expect them to act like everyone else and don't be afraid of them. Always be honest and straightforward with them and the results will be better than using innuendo or adhering to unspoken rules.

My son can add two plus two but he can't put two and two together.

Last week he was sitting on a curb talking to an older boy. As we got ready to leave, we said, "See you next week." My son got excited - the boy will come back from New York? Uh, dear, he's Joey's brother and lives here in Illinois - "But, he said!" My son has seen this boy before, but not enough to really recognize him - he didn't put two and two together.

My son MUST be first - always first, it's compulsive and it might be part of an esteem issue but there can be problems in a classroom if he's not first. It takes some serious explaining to help him realize Johnny or Susie gets a turn being first too.

My son doesn't really talk with us - he talks TO us, actually, it's more like lecturing. He can go on and on and on about whatever his current favorite thing is. If we try to get him on another topic by asking him a question, we'll get a short reply and then he'll resume his lecture as if there was no interruption.

He hears everything - oh, some of the things he hears! - but he doesn't always understand it. He has been known to repeat things at the worst possible time. Or, he'll use some slang he heard somewhere but he'll use it wrong.

And then there's the day he announced to his grandmother that he wanted a b***h. He had heard the word somewhere and asked me what it was. Thinking I was doing the right thing, I explained it's a female dog. Oh, he was so pleased with himself and his new knowledge. Luckily, grandma knows about his condition so it wasn't as humiliating as it could have been.

three2camp wrote: My son doesn't really talk with us - he talks TO us, actually, it's more like lecturing. He can go on and on and on about whatever his current favorite thing is. If we try to get him on another topic by asking him a question, we'll get a short reply and then he'll resume his lecture as if there was no interruption.

My son does this also. It is hard to get through to him. He is big on output, but nothing can get in! He also uses words incorrectly. The other day he told me he didn't like the way his life was going and he was going to be a coward. I enquired as to what he was afraid of and he didn't get it. I explained to him that being a coward means that you are too timid to do the right thing and that it denotes fear. He disagreed with my definition and insists on using the word incorrectly. (go figure! maybe this is his way of rebelling!)

Thanks a bunch guys, i gave my presentation today and it went pretty dang well. I quoted a few of ya on what you said and i think that drove a few points home and got me the grade i need on it. I'll probably stick around awhile and read up on some other topics since my nephew has AS, i probably should take the time and find out about it since i know where to look now

You're welcome!