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19 Jan 2014, 7:29 pm

I am almost 40 how many can say the same?

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19 Jan 2014, 7:33 pm

I am most of a generation older than you and only recently got into any kind of romantic relationship.

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19 Jan 2014, 7:36 pm

auntblabby wrote:

I am most of a generation older than you and only recently got into any kind of romantic relationship.

I am happy for you focusing on work is taking up all my effort right now.

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19 Jan 2014, 7:38 pm

sharkattack wrote:

auntblabby wrote:

I am most of a generation older than you and only recently got into any kind of romantic relationship.

I am happy for you focusing on work is taking up all my effort right now.

I hope you have a better job/career than I did, one that actually matches your talents and aspirations and preferences.

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19 Jan 2014, 7:39 pm

I'm 43 and have never had a relationship. My best friend is 44 and hasn't either, as far as I know.

My complete inability in this regard (and the specific form it takes - I get obsessed with a person I'm attracted to, but have no idea how to form a relationship with them) is one of the reasons I think I may be on the spectrum.

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19 Jan 2014, 7:40 pm

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too bad you and your best friend can't be something more together.

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19 Jan 2014, 7:41 pm

I've also never had a relationship, and m not bothered by that. More opportunities to be myself and do my own thing.

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19 Jan 2014, 7:42 pm

by this time [if nothing ever happened that good to me] I was ready to take a long walk off a short pier.

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19 Jan 2014, 7:42 pm

I don't think it's uncommon at all for people on the spectrum for a variety of reasons, including but not limited to social skills, confidence, sensory overload, enjoying being alone. Etc.

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19 Jan 2014, 7:45 pm

sure it's enjoyable to be accountable to nobody but oneself, but being able to set the thermometer at whatever you want won't keep you company in old age alone or comfort you otherwise when you are bereft of comfort. and a live not loving somebody else gets shallow and mundane after a while.

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19 Jan 2014, 7:47 pm

auntblabby wrote:

sharkattack wrote:

auntblabby wrote:

I am most of a generation older than you and only recently got into any kind of romantic relationship.

I am happy for you focusing on work is taking up all my effort right now.

I hope you have a better job/career than I did, one that actually matches your talents and aspirations and preferences.

I would not say that but I am good at the work and I seem to get on with the people at a casual level and I don't mind it.

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19 Jan 2014, 7:50 pm

sharkattack wrote:

I would not say that but I am good at the work and I seem to get on with the people at a casual level and I don't mind it.

that is more than I could say about my worklife.

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19 Jan 2014, 7:52 pm

auntblabby wrote:

You know, I think I was more shallow and mundane when I was desperate to have what I thought I had to have to be normal. The only thing that really worries me is that when you are older you need assistance, or when you are hurt. I don't know how to get that help though - all I can say is that I try my best to be kind to those I meet, although I am far from perfect, and whatever is going to happen is going to happen. But I don't feel bad about not having had a relationship at all. I have a sister who keeps telling me how sorry she feels for me because I've never experienced it and I want to stuff it up her you know what! Everybody doesn't need the same things in life.

Anyway, you've got us.

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19 Jan 2014, 7:53 pm

I sometimes wish I'd never had a relationship. I tried marriage but it's just not for me

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19 Jan 2014, 7:54 pm

auntblabby wrote:

sharkattack wrote:

I would not say that but I am good at the work and I seem to get on with the people at a casual level and I don't mind it.

that is more than I could say about my worklife.

Until my current job I too have had a very bumpy ride finding this place has helped me immensely.

I hope the fact that your can offer you experience and advice to younger people on the spectrum in some way makes you feel better about things.

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19 Jan 2014, 7:56 pm

wozeree wrote:

Anyway, you've got us.

we all got us :wtg:

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